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I am scent sensitive and have to have the "smell" talk quite often. My issue is regarding people who wear offensive cologne, scented lotion or even overly scented deodorant. Your issue is similar, it's dealing with how to have that awkward talk.
Ask Julie's mother to talk to her privately and start the convo with, "you may not realize this, but you and Roy have noticeable body odor". I'm afraid we won't be able to host and/or visit unless it's corrected. Mom and I love you very much and really do want to spend time with you".
Not necessarily a troll post. Many people with mental illness have poor personal hygiene. People with Bipolar Depression or major depression just don't care enough to clean up. And then as said above, they get nose-blind.
One single post, then no follow-ups. Usually a long fantastic story that stirs up the crowd. Sometimes they come back to post more stupid stuff, adding random remarks to keep the ball rolling.
I truly think there must be some college class assignment or someone is working on a 'plausible story generator' program or something with all the 'yeah, it 'could' be true but something is a bit off here' type OPs I see here. I agree with Nor'easter, and hunterseat.
However, just in case the OP is actually listening or cares about our responses, I will say two things:
1) The program still needs a bit of tuning up. SIL can mean son-in-law or sister-in-law. Fiancee (usually with an accent ague on the first e) is the word to use for a woman. Fiance is the form of the word to use when the object is a man. I found the title/beginning of your dilemma post a mite confusing because of those two things - the abbreviation and then the incorrect word usage to describe 'Roy' who is presumably male or at least identifies as one. Oh and I agree .. who YOU are/what YOUR marital status is .. has nothing to do with anything here and in fact makes the whole story look like a foil for what you really want to talk about and inflame people about. Most of us don't really give a hoot though .. so ... sorry .. not biting.
2) The 'environmental' gurus might say .. save water, save the planet. Who could ever criticize that? In fact, it was only in fairly modern times that people actually began to bathe regularly - the whole world was stinky and covered up with 'other smells' as a result. Perhaps you are the one who is too sensitive? It may actually not be that good for our skin to constantly be washing it anyway - though using some way to cleanse the smellier parts once in a while when one will be in the company of others is a nice 'social grace' I think.
And one last thing: If you don't like it, don't go near it. You may tell them to stay elsewhere or spray them down at the door or insist on them showering when they come to your house - but don't ever go to their place and criticize. Just my two cents worth.
The OP post is what doesn't pass the "smell test". It's a joke post.
Nobody who bathes twice a week, is going to smell THAT bad. And as the father of two daughters, I can tell you that it's rare to find a teenage girl who isn't meticulous about her hygiene. Our two almost drove me nuts over throwing out the soaps and shampoos that the wife would buy. Not good enough!
If the OP isn't a joke post (I say it is....) then "How To Deal" is obsessed with cleanliness and fresh-smelling to the point of unnaturalness. HE (not she) is just having a good time at our expense.
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Originally Posted by Cuzzant
Why so many of these troll posts, lately?
Am I the only person who gets dinged and kicked out of c-d when I dare use the tr0ll word?!
I am scent sensitive and have to have the "smell" talk quite often. My issue is regarding people who wear offensive cologne, scented lotion or even overly scented deodorant. Your issue is similar, it's dealing with how to have that awkward talk.
Ask Julie's mother to talk to her privately and start the convo with, "you may not realize this, but you and Roy have noticeable body odor". I'm afraid we won't be able to host and/or visit unless it's corrected. Mom and I love you very much and really do want to spend time with you".
Good luck!
In your case the problem is on your end. I don't think you should have the talk with anyone.
Does anyone think that as bohemians, they simply don't care? I know we've been raised to shower once or twice a day and to wash our hair far more than is healthy for it. Yes, I guess if they stink they must be dirty but as adults, I can't believe no one else has EVER said something to them...I think they know but they have far more important things to do.
Work around it...only eat in beer gardens or outdoor patio restaurants.
The OP post is what doesn't pass the "smell test". It's a joke post.
Nobody who bathes twice a week, is going to smell THAT bad. And as the father of two daughters, I can tell you that it's rare to find a teenage girl who isn't meticulous about her hygiene. Our two almost drove me nuts over throwing out the soaps and shampoos that the wife would buy. Not good enough!
If the OP isn't a joke post (I say it is....) then "How To Deal" is obsessed with cleanliness and fresh-smelling to the point of unnaturalness. HE (not she) is just having a good time at our expense.
Think you're right. First time poster asks for advice on a very odd situation and never comes back to the board.
Anyone who starts a thread asking for advice for a real situation is usually back on the thread quickly, not posts and than bolts.
You're also correct(good catch), someone who bathes twice a week isn't going to smell that bad or smell at all.
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In fact, it was only in fairly modern times that people actually began to bathe regularly - the whole world was stinky and covered up with 'other smells' as a result. Perhaps you are the one who is too sensitive? It may actually not be that good for our skin to constantly be washing it anyway - though using some way to cleanse the smellier parts once in a while when one will be in the company of others is a nice 'social grace' I think. 
