Too many surprise guests to family Thanksgiving (girlfriend, holidays, brother)
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Family doesn't mean blood. Maybe the friend your sister invites she considers her family, perhaps more so than you. Maybe your parents are also close to this woman and consider her a daughter. Your taking a day about people and spending time together and making it all about you. You have a very entitled attitude. Its one day a year deal with it! Also nothing is stopping you from making more time in your life to see your parents on other random days. I say if you can't accept the invite as is, then don't go.
I think it would be wonderful if the world revolved around me and all of my whims, but unfortunately, that's not the way the world works. I do understand where you're coming from and yes, there are many families that prefer to stay inside the confines of their clan for the holiday.
Then there are others who are kind and giving and would rather see someone with a nice meal one day out of the year who have no one else or no where else to go. Even rectums deserve to have that one meal that lasts only a few precious hours one day out of the year. Yep, homeless people, addicts and rest as well. Those few precious hours and one meal. That's all it is. You have all of the rest of the year to be with your family and talk about whatever you want to talk about.
Very well said.
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Originally Posted by blueherons
If I'm reading this correctly, it is your sister's best friend who is dragging in the strays correct?
Tell your parents this makes you uncomfortable and if she attends, you will not attend.
That would pi$$ me off to no end.
When your name is on the title to the house you can be pissed off. If it isn't than you have no say so.
I try to do that but fails because I think my family and I are at a certain financial and political status very different than many of those guests. So I can easily see a normal conversation can become difficult if we invite too many people that are at the low end of the spectrum.
Did you really just say that? "Low end of the spectrum"? Good Lord above, that is Snobby with a capital "S".
If you were my sibling, you'd have already been banned from the family dinners.
Thank you for summarizing that so nicely for me, convextech. I am out of rep right now unfortunately, but, you deserve some. You nailed it with the quote outtakes. The OP had been striking me that way for a while as I read through the thread but that particular post told the whole tale in a nutshell.
No. I disagree that Thanksgiving is exclusive to relatives only. As I stated in another thread, just imagine if the Pilgrims and Native Americans viewed it as an exclusive event.
If you want to spend time with just your parents, that seems to be the solution.
Exactly.
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