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In the world of Prime (2 day free delivery), Prime Now (free 2 hour delivery), and gift cards of every ilk at the grocery store, how the eff is 4 days considered "short notice"?
Op even said she had to get something for another similar aged kid...so it's not like she's done and ready to go.
I'm willing to bet that regardless of how the SIL/boyfriend relationship turns out this 12 year old will always remember the kindness and generosity shown him while he is "in the family"; it may be temporary or it may be long lived but he is a child now and will always remember how he was treated.
Yeah, because most people (especially 12 year olds)always remember when you're good to them ... please.
I don't know very many people where I live now. But in previous years I did a lot of entertaining around the holiday. I always had generic kid gifts wrapped and placed under my tree in case people brought their children when they stopped over. It seemed in the spirit of the season to me and there was a pay-off. I never hosted a badly behaved child-guest when they got Christmas cookies and a gift. Now that some of them are grown up they have mentioned enjoying coming to my house over the holidays.
I feel like it's a kid and it's the holidays; now is not the time to be keeping score. Spending $10-20 on a little something so a kid doesn't feel left out in a room full of almost strangers is in the spirit of the season.
That doesn't make him family. I would however buy him a gift.
I suppose you and I have different definitions of family. A friend of mine has lived with his girlfriend for 15 years, yet they have no desire to be married. Are they not members of each other's families at this point?
I suppose you and I have different definitions of family. A friend of mine has lived with his girlfriend for 15 years, yet they have no desire to be married. Are they not members of each other's families at this point?
Ha, yeah. My one sister has been with her S.O. 25 years. She was married twice before that, each lasting around 2 years. My "BIL" will be 70 next month and we are celebrating his birthday. He is family.
Another sister lived with her husband without marriage for 15 years. Both were divorced and had grown kids.
They got engaged 12 years ago but never moved on it till last year when he lost his job and his insurance. Last Thanksgiving they whipped out a cake after dinner that had "Just Married" on it and told us they went to the mayor the previous weekend and got married so that he could get on her insurance.
Those are both of their kids. If you give a gift to one, give a gift to the other. Otherwise, don't give any.
How ridiculous that this even has to be said.
You both should be ashamed of yourselves!
Last edited by convextech; 12-15-2016 at 08:47 AM..
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