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I just don't get how bringing up a valid criticism about something makes you a whiner, I think it's just a way for the other person to easily dismiss what you are saying. I've also heard people say "get over yourself" when someone has a complaint about something, but again I don't see how pointing out a flaw with something means you think you are more important than other people, which is what people mean when they say "get over yourself" at least from what I can gather. I just think these are all ways for people to just offhandedly dismiss you, what do you guys think?
I swear some people are so stupid they can't tell a valid complaint from a trivial gripe.
From what I've seen many businesses will label a customer complaining as "someone just trying to get something free". Which isn't always the case. They won't even listen to the complaint, and won't apologize. I no longer bother complaining to managers, I complain directly to the service person I'm having the issue with; if necessary I'll stand there and give him a lecture right in front of everyone else.
What are you complaining about? A bad situation? Their personality?
If it's a bad situation, everyone likes the atmosphere to be pleasant and peaceful. Complaining about something makes the air feel grumpy and unpleasant. That's why no one likes to hear anyone complaining about anything.
If you're criticizing a person, then they are offended and is being defensive when they tell you to get over yourself. No one likes to be judged badly, which is what criticism is, even if you think it's valid.
From what I've seen many businesses will label a customer complaining as "someone just trying to get something free". Which isn't always the case. They won't even listen to the complaint, and won't apologize. I no longer bother complaining to managers, I complain directly to the service person I'm having the issue with; if necessary I'll stand there and give him a lecture right in front of everyone else.
And if the service person cannot solve the problem, exactly what does your lecturing him or her solve?
Do you really think that the other customers want to hear another customer lecture an employee while they are waiting in line?
I just don't get how bringing up a valid criticism about something makes you a whiner, I think it's just a way for the other person to easily dismiss what you are saying. I've also heard people say "get over yourself" when someone has a complaint about something, but again I don't see how pointing out a flaw with something means you think you are more important than other people, which is what people mean when they say "get over yourself" at least from what I can gather. I just think these are all ways for people to just offhandedly dismiss you, what do you guys think?
I swear some people are so stupid they can't tell a valid complaint from a trivial gripe.
In the end, all that matters is how you see or feel about your self and your complaint/questions/opinions.
I just don't get how bringing up a valid criticism about something makes you a whiner, I think it's just a way for the other person to easily dismiss what you are saying. I've also heard people say "get over yourself" when someone has a complaint about something, but again I don't see how pointing out a flaw with something means you think you are more important than other people, which is what people mean when they say "get over yourself" at least from what I can gather. I just think these are all ways for people to just offhandedly dismiss you, what do you guys think?
I swear some people are so stupid they can't tell a valid complaint from a trivial gripe.
I guess it's all a matter of perspective - what seems like a valid complaint to you may seem trivial to them. What seems trivial to you may be a valid complaint to someone else.
Maybe they're so unperceptive that they don't notice anything wrong. Maybe they're so insecure that they're terrified of "negativity." Maybe they're so dull that they have no interest in analyzing or discussing anything.
Maybe they're so unperceptive that they don't notice anything wrong. Maybe they're so insecure that they're terrified of "negativity." Maybe they're so dull that they have no interest in analyzing or discussing anything.
Yes. And sometimes what you are complaining about is somehow advantageous to them, so they prefer to ignore it even if they know your complaint is valid. Clicks and favoritism often brings this about.
OP---I'm not saying that this is a description of you but...some people constantly complain and make mountains out of molehills. My mother was like that, as well as one of my brothers. After awhile people who constantly complain get tuned out. Then if they have a valid complaint, no one pays attention. It's like the boy who cried wolf.
That said, if you rarely complain and people say things like "stop whining" or "stop being a victim", they invalidate your feelings. If you offer up an unsolicited criticism, people don't like that. However, if someone asks you to be honest and critique something (an outfit they are wearing or a paper they wrote for school) and you offer up sincere criticism without being nasty or mean-spirited---they may get upset because despite asking for an honest critique, you didn't say what they wanted to hear, so they get upset.
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