Well dressed + Quiet= Arrogant? (person, personalities)

[seixal]

Why does this fallacious association come across so often ?

[Londoncowboy30]

Originally Posted by seixal

Why does this fallacious association come across so often ?

Not particularly as many people from all backgrounds, personalities and appearance can have illusions of grandeur

Maybe with well dressed + quiet it's more people's assumption that they are arrogant? Perhaps.

[hertfordshire]

Originally Posted by seixal

Why does this fallacious association come across so often ?

There's often another element at play. Like "resting *itch face," for example.

Quiet and RBF can be quite off-putting and can come off as arrogant, regardless of how someone is dressed.

[Gretchen963]

Originally Posted by seixal

Why does this fallacious association come across so often ?

Some people are more reserved and take a while to warm up to others, which in turn, can be viewed as arrogance, snobbery, etc. by people who aren't like them.

[mainebrokerman]

some people come from nothing,,,,they know poor, they know humiliation of wearing hand me downs that are well worn..and shoes that dont fit

if these folks do better in life they want to dress nicely.... it means something to them...not so much to others but to themselves

[oldwoman]

I get accused of arrogance. I am reserved, well dressed, and RBF'ed.

So yeah .... it's a perception. But, arrogance is an exaggerated sense of one's own importance. So .... I'm really not arrogant because I really am that important, it's not an exaggeration.

[Mikala43]

If a bunch of people all tell you that you come across the same, then it's you.

If you are well dressed + quiet + smiling it will not = arrogant

[silibran]

Originally Posted by seixal

Why does this fallacious association come across so often ?

I think people assume arrogance when people don't interact normally with others. Often this is shyness, but in a social setting not speaking to others and being an onlooker to social interactions, or moving to another room, or finding a corner and immersing oneself in one's phone, are signals that are interpreted negatively.

I don't know so much about the well dressed part. But people with extreme introversion, shyness or social anxiety do themselves no favors by keeping themselves apart in social situations. We all need to learn social skills, even if it is hard to do so.

[Auraliea]

I wouldn't care.

If dressing nicely and keeping to myself makes me stuck up, oh well. I wouldn't want to be around people who think like that anyway.

[seixal]

Originally Posted by Mikala43

If a bunch of people all tell you that you come across the same, then it's you.

If you are well dressed + quiet + smiling it will not = arrogant

People judge a priori, because perception creates reality. After getting acquainted people revise their judgement, the smart ones at least.