Should I tell my female best friend I am distancing myself from her because I have feelings for her? (romance, girlfriend)
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I'd sit down with her one on one with no possible distractions.
Start off with, "I really trust your judgement and I need some direction as to what I should do. I have a very close friend who I'm growing more and more fond of all the time. I don't want to ruin our relationship, but I'm not sure how she'll handle knowing I've got a thing for her... what do you suggest I do?
See how she reacts and go from there.
When she asks who in the beginning, don't tell her.
When she asks who at the end, hold up a mirror to her.
Good luck.
Why the games?
I want a man that doesn't need to do that.
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Originally Posted by kelly237
I was thinking about that movie too..
I married a guy that I put in the "friend zone" for 6 months.
I needed time to move beyond that and if he had refused we would have been history.
I think being friends first can be a great foundation to beginning a romantic relationship.
Not the only way, but it can work.
I'm NOT sorry. If I go out and tell a woman that I have feelings for her and she wants to place me in the just friends box for a bit while "she needs time", damn straight we would be history, because I would bounce the second she rejected me. I'm not one of these weak people who will accept friendship as a consolation prize. I have too much self-respect to settle for less than I ask for in this realm.
I'm NOT sorry. If I go out and tell a woman that I have feelings for her and she wants to place me in the just friends box for a bit while "she needs time", damn straight we would be history, because I would bounce the second she rejected me. I'm not one of these weak people who will accept friendship as a consolation prize. I have too much self-respect to settle for less than I ask for in this realm.
What you call weak others call patient.
That ego may cause you to miss a great relationship.
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What you call weak others call patient.
That ego may cause you to miss a great relationship.
Ain't about an ego, all about self-respect and some pride. I don't have high self-esteem but I am far too smart and strong to ever settle like a weak little coward for being "patient" while I wait for a woman to decide she loves me, which happens less than a snowball making it through one day in hell.
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What you call weak others call patient.
That ego may cause you to miss a great relationship.
Besides I'd never be in a "great relationship" with someone who couldn't make a decision like that and wanted to take a few months to "think it over." Over my dead fat Virginia backside.
I'm NOT sorry. If I go out and tell a woman that I have feelings for her and she wants to place me in the just friends box for a bit while "she needs time", damn straight we would be history, because I would bounce the second she rejected me. I'm not one of these weak people who will accept friendship as a consolation prize. I have too much self-respect to settle for less than I ask for in this realm.
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Ain't about an ego, all about self-respect and some pride. I don't have high self-esteem but I am far too smart and strong to ever settle like a weak little coward for being "patient" while I wait for a woman to decide she loves me, which happens less than a snowball making it through one day in hell.
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Besides I'd never be in a "great relationship" with someone who couldn't make a decision like that and wanted to take a few months to "think it over." Over my dead fat Virginia backside.
Didn't you post somewhere that you are single, family dislikes you,
not many friends and have trouble getting dates?
My point is that maybe your way of looking at things is not working for you.
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Didn't you post somewhere that you are single, family dislikes you,
not many friends and have trouble getting dates?
My point is that maybe your way of looking at things is not working for you.
Damn straight. Yeah, my life aint perfect. But the one thing I can take solace in is that I am not a weak and have a strong set of testicles.
Ain't about an ego, all about self-respect and some pride. I don't have high self-esteem but I am far too smart and strong to ever settle like a weak little coward for being "patient" while I wait for a woman to decide she loves me, which happens less than a snowball making it through one day in hell.
Hold it. He's got a point here...
Why wait around and kowtow to the woman like a lovesick puppy, showing her how much of a good guy you are, while she's off screwing some other guy who couldn't care less?
Sorry, but it is about self-respect! I'm not gonna play the nice guy while she's off ****ing some bad boy! And I'm NOT gonna accept that "Let's be friends" bull**** either. You don't see me as bf material, adios!
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and have a strong set of testicles. 
