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Location: Finally the house is done and we are in Port St. Lucie!
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Originally Posted by nuts2uiam
What would the benefit be to either of you to tell him. You connected with him and he with you. In your mind, you accepted him as a piece of your life that was missing and found joy for the both of you. He may know, he may not know and when all is said and done, as it is now, you each have that special person in your life that neither of you wants to lose after all these years. He obviously thinks of you as his daughter.
As an aside, I am sure that a $99 test is not something I would base ruining a longed for relationship on. The test could be wrong and if it were that important to me, I would find a good geneticist and have a test done, rather base it on an OTC test.
Exactly what I'm saying.
For something as serious as this, a more respected source for testing should be used.
Good Lord, OP, get a second opinion before opening THAT Pandora's box.
Can I have a coherent translator for this OP' post please? I sincerely am trying to follow along yet all I keep hearing in my head is the tune of "I am my own grandpa"...Its a tune that is nonsensical at best and rather funny. This post though is less than funny and more of a WHo's the Dad?
In the mean time I'm waiting for The accused Man to post on here that he was approached by a girl who got his DNA (How ? Who knows!) and now thinks he is or isn't her real biological or deceased dad?
Can I have a coherent translator for this OP' post please? I sincerely am trying to follow along yet all I keep hearing in my head is the tune of "I am my own grandpa"...Its a tune that is nonsensical at best and rather funny. This post though is less than funny and more of a WHo's the Dad?
In the mean time I'm waiting for The accused Man to post on here that he was approached by a girl who got his DNA (How ? Who knows!) and now thinks he is or isn't her real biological or deceased dad?
Is it really that confusing?
1- my mom hooks up with guy A during a vacation, she later finds out she's pregnant, tells guy A that he's the dad.
2- I'm born, guy A is on my birth certificate and pays support but lives in NY so doesn't visit
3- My mom gets married to my brothers' dad, tells guy A to go away
4- fast forward, guy A and I reunite. He immediately is great and I didn't want to be wrong so I questioned my mom to be sure there's no other possibilities. She mentions guy B but said they hooked up 2 months after my conception date. I don't think about it again bc guy A was always the person who was known as my dad even though he wasn't in my life.
5- fast forward to now. I did a heritage test. The company has a link that connects you to relatives with the same DNA. I click on it and it's a bunch of people with the same uncommon last name of guy B. Therefore guy B is my father.
I didn't get anyone's DNA. I was linked to them through my DNA.
Location: Finally the house is done and we are in Port St. Lucie!
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Originally Posted by hellob
Is it really that confusing?
1- my mom hooks up with guy A during a vacation, she later finds out she's pregnant, tells guy A that he's the dad.
2- I'm born, guy A is on my birth certificate and pays support but lives in NY so doesn't visit
3- My mom gets married to my brothers' dad, tells guy A to go away
4- fast forward, guy A and I reunite. He immediately is great and I didn't want to be wrong so I questioned my mom to be sure there's no other possibilities. She mentions guy B but said they hooked up 2 months after my conception date. I don't think about it again bc guy A was always the person who was known as my dad even though he wasn't in my life.
5- fast forward to now. I did a heritage test. The company has a link that connects you to relatives with the same DNA. I click on it and it's a bunch of people with the same uncommon last name of guy B. Therefore guy B is my father.
I didn't get anyone's DNA. I was linked to them through my DNA.
You do realize that the test you took could have a false result, right? It is not as thorough as a more expensive true DNA testing site.
Before going off the deep end, Get. A. Second. Opinion.
You do realize that the test you took could have a false result, right? It is not as thorough as a more expensive true DNA testing site.
Before going off the deep end, Get. A. Second. Opinion.
I'm calmed down. There's no point in ruining everything over some dead guy.
I'm not sure if I'm explaining that it's not bc the test says I'm 5% Italian or whatever that's making me say he's not my dad. It's bc the DNA relatives is linking me as first and second cousins to the other man's family.
The nationality thing may not be perfect but the fact that I'm cousins with the guy who my mom<bleep> around the time I was conceived is the main issue.
Last edited by Miss Blue; 08-08-2017 at 03:12 PM..
I'm calmed down. There's no point in ruining everything over some dead guy.
I'm not sure if I'm explaining that it's not bc the test says I'm 5% Italian or whatever that's making me say he's not my dad. It's bc the DNA relatives is linking me as first and second cousins to the other man's family.
The nationality thing may not be perfect but the fact that I'm cousins with the guy who my mom<bleep> around the time I was conceived is the main issue.
Waitaminute: you're COUSINS with the man you suspect is your bio father??
Please, for everyone's sake, ask your mom if the two potential fathers were related to each other. Or if she was related to one or more of them. Or if the name of these possible cousins is also found in her family.
And take a second, more reliable test. Then reconsider talking to the man who has loved you like a daughter should be loved.
Last edited by Miss Blue; 08-08-2017 at 03:13 PM..
Long long ago.... There were no DNA tests wasn't life much simpler. Yes it can be a good thing but at times it seems to cause such trouble. There are probably plenty of people who are not the children of the father who everyone assumes is. Possibly even the mother not sure. Just throw the test out and erase it from your mind. Your dad is your dad, who cares about the rest of it. That is what I would do.
Is it really that confusing? (YES: It was and IS Confusing)
1- my mom hooks up with guy A during a vacation, she later finds out she's pregnant, tells guy A that he's the dad.( SO Your MOTHER ASSUMES)
2- I'm born, guy A is on my birth certificate and pays support but lives in NY so doesn't visit (SO your MOM potentially falsified a Birth Certificate and collects support- Okay Now I'm starting to understand)
3- My mom gets married to my brothers' dad, tells guy A to go away (Okay she chooses to marry a guy- got that part! Woohoo!, Collects child support and refuses to let you see this alleged BIO Dad)
4- fast forward, guy A and I reunite. He immediately is great and I didn't want to be wrong so I questioned my mom to be sure there's no other possibilities. She mentions guy B but said they hooked up 2 months after my conception date. I don't think about it again bc guy A was always the person who was known as my dad even though he wasn't in my life.( Okay so Bio -DAD ...person "A" who hasn't ever been in your life but was listed on your birth certificate - somehow comes back into your life)
5- fast forward to now. I did a heritage test. The company has a link that connects you to relatives with the same DNA. I click on it and it's a bunch of people with the same uncommon last name of guy B. Therefore guy B is my father. (Okay so you used a website and no actually DNA testing to jump to this conclusion?- Again now its becoming clear, There is no accurate proof who the paternal father is, just assumptions based on a last name....)
I didn't get anyone's DNA. I was linked to them through my DNA.
I respect the quandary you are in and the goal to find your paternal heritage. But this Assuming things is more your mothers style.
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Waitaminute: you're COUSINS with the man you suspect is your bio father??
Please, for everyone's sake, ask your mom if the two potential fathers were related to each other. Or if she was related to one or more of them. Or if the name of these possible cousins is also found in her family.
And take a second, more reliable test. Then reconsider talking to the man who has loved you like a daughter should be loved.
No, I'm cousins with his family members.
The 2 men who are options aren't related. One is from NY and the other from Indiana.
I can't talk to my mom. We don't talk anymore.
I'm not going to tell my dad anything. I'm going to forget about the whole thing.
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