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They are being childish and rude. If they want those exact potatoes they should just bring them as a side dish.
That they aren't willing to do just that makes me suspect the OP is right, and these relatives were hoping to shift the festivities to their house (where they feel most comfortable). I don't entirely blame them for that given the previous collapsing furniture incident, which had to be horribly embarrassing (never mind that is wasn't the OP's fault), but it's an unrealistic hope, and I don't blame the OP in the slightest for just going ahead with the original plans. Let Mr. and Mrs. CheesyPotatoes figure out on their own how to meet up with the visiting relatives from overseas, since they've decided to skip the group holiday dinner because it's not at their house!
So Emotiioo, how did Thanksgiving go? I’m dying to hear all the details. Who shuttled the out of town relatives around? Or did the cheesy mashed potato relatives decide to join you after all?
You cant be manipulated unless you give someone permission.
I had a lettuce wedge with blue cheese dressing for my Thanksgiving dinner. Not going to eat carb filled food that would make my insulin spike just to satisfy "heavy" (read: fat) relatives.
I was at one time almost 300 lbs and am not going back there.
No they aren't expecting that. At least I don't think so...
My guess is that they couldn't say no to the gathering we had planned because we had so many people excited about it and visiting from afar. So they found a reason not to come, and wanted me to just say "oh, okay. We will all come over to you." But due to cost and planning (guests staying with us and in hotels near by) its totally inconvenient/impossible to have that happen at this late stage. Judging from the conversation we had, they were just expecting me to agree that they should host the gathering. A Thanksgiving silent coup of sorts.
We have friends as well as relatives coming-- some of the friends have never met these relatives. How weird would it be to just pull up stakes and have everyone head over to their house when they have no prior relationship? Pretty weird. So we are proceeding as planned.
Well, now that you've said they prefer that people come to them, doesn't that make sense on their part after breaking your furniture? And then added on was the other intel there would be activities they could not partake in. How uncomfortable. worried about breaking furniture and being mortified, and having to do nothing while the rest of you do those things.
With the additional intel, I think you should have let them host.
So the entire family now needs to base every single holiday around how these two people want to always do things? That’s hardly fair is it. Everyone else is expected to be flexible except them?
So the entire family now needs to base every single holiday around how these two people want to always do things? That’s hardly fair is it. Everyone else is expected to be flexible except them?
Well, before the complaint was that he is a bad guest. And with people coming in from overseas? It's the easiest way to accommodate everyone. It's not just about these people, it's about the people coming from so far away and want to see everyone.
I consider any allergies when putting together a meal and will make a separate dish for someone if I have to.
I am mostly vegetarian myself and don't expect people making a Thanksgiving dinner to cater to that. Generally, there is plenty for me to eat anyhow--green beans, salad, cranberry sauce, sweet potatoes, regular potatoes, etc. If I'm especially hungry, I might quietly bring along a veggie burger or some other vegetarian main course to supplement what is available but I don't make a big issue of it.
Personally I think that it's really rude to go to someone's home that you have been invited into as a guest and start making demands or complain about the food. If you don't like it, politely eat a small amount and be quiet. Then go eat some food you DO like somewhere else after you leave.
Personally I think that it's really rude to go to someone's home that you have been invited into as a guest and start making demands or complain about the food. If you don't like it, politely eat a small amount and be quiet. Then go eat some food you DO like somewhere else after you leave.
Some people...
If we were all so reasonable, there would be no reason for this thread to exist at all.
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