What should my son's girlfriend call me? (inlaws, dynamics, reunion)
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For some it is a respect thing - she is your son's girlfriend not your friend and not your daughter-in-law. If you say "oh please call me Patty," or whatever your name is, then she can call you by your first name. My son-in-law called me "Ms. Praline" until they became engaged and then he called me mom.
If she ain't yer buddy or your boss your parent or your child, she should call you Ms or Mrs like everyone else who ain't yer buddy or your boss or your parent or your child.
Heck, if you're not in one of those categories, I don't particularly want you to know my first name.
I think Mr. and Mrs. is polite until she gets to know you well, then I think first names are appropriate. I think expecting to be called Mr. and Mrs. the whole time is just some weird power trip thing people have, especially when it comes to their children's SOs. She is an adult, she is equal to you in all reality. Like someone said, would you want a coworker or even someone who works under you to call you Mr. or Mrs.? Maybe it's a cultural thing, but I wouldn't and I wouldn't like having to do that myself. As long as your relationship with her goes well and she is respectful and nice, I think that eventually being on a first name basis would be most comfortable and not seem too formal.
I hear all of you... I was raised in EU, came here when I was very young... Can't help it that I have this background. Her calling me by my first name would seem odd, to be honest. She is very respectful and nice. This is not a power trip for me, I feel very close to her, and that is great. Mom sounds a lot better than first name or Mrs Last Name, because that's how I feel toward her, but I can't really suggest that, because she has her own Mom, and the kids are just dating, not married. Maybe Mrs. R is the best option for now... Until more time goes by...
When you meet other adults, what do you ask them to call you?
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