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They are both in college, and 20 yrs old. I like her, they are a good match. What shall she call me? Addressing me by my first name seems strange to me. We are not friends, we are not the same age, plus, I think of myself as a parent to both of them, so calling me by my first name would take that away from me in a way... Calling me "Mrs. Last Name" is too formal. Any ideas?
What does she call you? Or did she ask you what to call you? I'd probably just go with whatever she called me
I rarely ever recall even using any of my SO's parents names... My friends parents were just their first names, too, but I also rarely used them. That's also just common here, though.
They are both in college, and 20 yrs old. I like her, they are a good match. What shall she call me? Addressing me by my first name seems strange to me. We are not friends, we are not the same age, plus, I think of myself as a parent to both of them, so calling me by my first name would take that away from me in a way... Calling me "Mrs. Last Name" is too formal. Any ideas?
This issue is moot with me, as I never use the names of people, when I speak with them. I annoys me, when others use my name when they address me, because it adds an element of familiarity, that I don't want.
This issue is moot with me, as I never use the names of people, when I speak with them. I annoys me, when others use my name when they address me, because it adds an element of familiarity, that I don't want.
That's true too. I don't really know anyone in my life that formally addresses someone by their name when talking to them
What else is there? First name is definitely a NO, given you are the mom and an authority figure over her.
She can call you Auntie or Auntie First Name. It's an Asian cultural thing in which you should NEVER call anyone one generation older by their first names. Same as them calling their relatives by their titles, never their names.
What else is there? First name is definitely a NO, given you are the mom and an authority figure over her.
She can call you Auntie or Auntie First Name. It's an Asian cultural thing in which you should NEVER call anyone one generation older by their first names. Same as them calling their relatives by their titles, never their names.
I fail to see how she is an "authority figure" over her? This isn't 1900. And I'm all about respect, but this is borderline ridiculous. Have her call you by your name. She is an adult.
They are both in college, and 20 yrs old. I like her, they are a good match. What shall she call me? Addressing me by my first name seems strange to me. We are not friends, we are not the same age, plus, I think of myself as a parent to both of them, so calling me by my first name would take that away from me in a way... Calling me "Mrs. Last Name" is too formal. Any ideas?
But you ARE Mrs. Last Name. I don't think that's too formal. Formal would be addressing you as ma'am.
What else is there? First name is definitely a NO, given you are the mom and an authority figure over her.
She can call you Auntie or Auntie First Name. It's an Asian cultural thing in which you should NEVER call anyone one generation older by their first names. Same as them calling their relatives by their titles, never their names.
How exactly is the OP an authority figure over her? Just because someone is older doesn't mean that they're an authority figure.
Why would she call her auntie? She's not her aunt!
If one is in Asian community and grew up this way, that's one thing. I hate to burst your bubble, but I call everyone by their first name no matter their age. Calling relatives by their title? What are they kings, queens, dukes, etc? Aside from actual royalty, I'm calling your by your first name. I mean I wouldn't walk up to Queen Elizabeth and call her Elizabeth, but Harry and Will, I would absolutely call them Harry and Will. They're not my princes.
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