Parents hate my girlfriend (narcissistic, introducing, abuse, boyfriend)
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I would ask why they don't like her and LISTEN to the answer. You may be surprised and it has nothing to do with her ethnicity, or her skin color. If it is because she is Cuban, that's your parent's problem, not yours. I would want to know if there is a real reason. Parents are sometimes smarter than you think they are. Other times not so much.
I agree with this. My son had a girlfriend of a different race at one time and I really didn't like her for good reason having nothing to do with race. She was just a horrible person.
You sure it's cause she Cuban and not for some other reasons? Plenty of reasons too dislike a person, bro. Sometimes you can dislike someone from just looking at them or even hearing them talk. I mean, I'm sure your parents are huge racist, but I'm just saying there's plenty of reasons parents don't dig people their kids being home after a WHOLE 2 months.
Don't see why you couldn't t just ask them sraight why they dislike her? Maybe it's for some other reasons. Maybe privately your girl talked mad **** to them. Who knows.
I’ll definitely work on me not telling them everything right up front in the future if I date another girl and in hindsight, I should’ve been doing that already. Yes, I do tell them about how my schoolwork is going because they’re footing the bill and made it clear that they wanted to know how it was going. I wouldn’t even call her lazy, lots of kids work on her type of schedule, but, just the fact that this is really the first time I’ve ever dated a girl who wasn’t similar to me as a student is, I’m sure, a shock to my parents. I think that’s one of her best qualities and I again, I envy her for that.
That conversation you relayed sounds normal to me. What do you expect them to do? Jump up and down because someone they barely know made the team?
Don't worry whether your parents like your girlfriends. One day they'll be dead, and you'll be left with your mate (if you have one). Pick the ones you want. They'll adjust and grow to love her.
I would ask why they don't like her and LISTEN to the answer. You may be surprised and it has nothing to do with her ethnicity, or her skin color. If it is because she is Cuban, that's your parent's problem, not yours. I would want to know if there is a real reason. Parents are sometimes smarter than you think they are. Other times not so much.
THIS.
Have a conversation so you understand what's going on instead of making assumptions.
I have been on both sides. My oh my what a quandary.!
My in laws were absolutely right to dislike my behavior and attitude. Despite how much I 'thought' I loved their son. They 'tolerated' the relationship but years later they made it clear how I turned out just as they suspected. I had to learn the hard way how to change...thank goodness they were my catalyst to do such.
Then as a parent myself I was determined to welcome my son's mate. What a blind fool I was...and sure enough the moment that engagement ring went on her finger...she turned into the dil from down under. Fast forward 15 years and I now understand why trust your instincts need to supersede the 'society' norm of being hospitable to a gold digger. I am not saying your endearing gal is any of that...she may well be a genteel being filled with joy.I just find that some parents have that sixth sense and are prone to listen to it. As others stated...an open conversation may be in order to get a better understanding. If for nothing else it allows you each to know where you stand. Your gf is wise to allow her actions be her gift..forcing her on them does little good.
I would ask why they don't like her and LISTEN to the answer. You may be surprised and it has nothing to do with her ethnicity, or her skin color. If it is because she is Cuban, that's your parent's problem, not yours. I would want to know if there is a real reason. Parents are sometimes smarter than you think they are. Other times not so much.
This is also what I thought when reading the post. OP may very well be ignoring a lot.
It's natural for parents to feel that way. Be upfront and ask them why. If the girl likes you a lot, she'll make extra effort too to stay around and understand.
Tell your parents to shape up.It'a miracle you didn't out like them.There is now reason for them to be acting the way they're acting.You need to tell them that you don't appreciate it and that it's very mean and rude.
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