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Old 02-22-2018, 08:32 AM
 
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Because she is obviously trying to bait me into a argument or even physical fight.

Let her bait all she wants. If you don't take the bait, there's no problem.
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Old 02-22-2018, 08:33 AM
 
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What are those options?
I gave you one in the very message you replied to.
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Old 02-22-2018, 08:33 AM
 
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Exactly. It's insulting to the Dean to reduce his/her role to playground monitor.
So if someone continues to make inappropriate remarks to you after you have asked them to stop, what should you do? There has to be someone to handle situations like this.
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Old 02-22-2018, 08:34 AM
 
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So if someone continues to make inappropriate remarks to you after you have asked them to stop, what should you do? There has to be someone to handle situations like this.
That person is YOU.
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Old 02-22-2018, 08:34 AM
 
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Let her bait all she wants. If you don't take the bait, there's no problem.
That's letting her off the hook. I shouldn't have to deal with this. It's creating a hostile environment for me
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Old 02-22-2018, 08:35 AM
 
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. She's a single mother with two kids, if I bring that up she is going to get mad at me and want to fight.
That should tell you everything you need to know about this person. I'd feel like I was in hell if I had to go through a tough nursing curriculum as a single mom. Her life is probably hell. She takes it out on other people. It also sounds like she made some negative choices in life that she regrets now, such as hooking up with the wrong kind of men. So she has made you her punching bag. I agree you are right to make a formal complaint and ask that the harassment be stopped. Just because it's a woman doing the harassing doesn't make it any less worse. I guarantee they'd take it seriously if a man was doing it but as a woman, she may get more leniency. Just something to be aware of.
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Old 02-22-2018, 08:35 AM
 
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That person is YOU.
What if she doesn't stop then what???
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Old 02-22-2018, 08:36 AM
 
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That's letting her off the hook. I shouldn't have to deal with this. It's creating a hostile environment for me
So let her off the hook. Are you looking for the discussion to cease, or are you looking to get her into trouble?

Why does it matter what she thinks? Stop letting it get to you. Her opinion of you does not matter one iota.

"I am choosing to focus on my education." Drop mic. Walk away.
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Old 02-22-2018, 08:38 AM
 
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What if she doesn't stop then what???
It's sounding like you want this to escalate to a fight. Maybe not a physical one, but certainly one where your "punch" is delivered by the Dean. You want to WIN this fight.

Stop engaging. Stop caring what this girl thinks. Ignore her. Stop letting her get under your skin. Walk away from the fight.
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Old 02-22-2018, 08:40 AM
 
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So let her off the hook. Are you looking for the discussion to cease, or are you looking to get her into trouble?

Why does it matter what she thinks? Stop letting it get to you. Her opinion of you does not matter one iota.

"I am choosing to focus on my education." Drop mic. Walk away.
Constantly announcing that I need a husband is disrespectful and I feel that I deserve more respect than that. You're right her opinion doesn't matter therefore she should keep it to herself. I don't think I should put up with this especially since the other women in our group are not subject to this type of scrutiny
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