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But do you say, hey I heard your brother died and I won't be attending his funeral because I think he was a scum.
How crass, do you think this of everyone? I would simply not attend. If I were ever asked why I did not attend, my answer would be as I posted earlier. I chose not to attend for personal reasons and leave it at that.
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How crass, do you think this of everyone? I would simply not attend. If I were ever asked why I did not attend, my answer would be as I posted earlier. I chose not to attend for personal reasons and leave it at that.
Of course you don't say that. No one does.
But basically that's what the OP did. I won't attend your wedding because your church is evil, however, I'd like a piece of cake afterwards.
But basically that's what the OP did. I won't attend your wedding because your church is evil, however, I'd like a piece of cake afterwards.
You are confused. The OP declined due to personal feelings toward an entity that was guilty of great harm toward a sibling. The OP chose to be forthright with the "friend" about why he/she chose not to attend, and the "friend" chooses not to recognize the validity of the OP's feelings about setting foot inside a bastion of said entities power and influence. There is no comparison to what you stated earlier. As for having cake later, the "friend" chose to decline the OP's offer to attend the reception, as is their right, but I also think it is more a reflection of either an under developed bond between the two, or a more shallow response on the part of the "friend".
The OP is offering to show support and appreciation by attending the reception, if permitted, on neutral ground due to a traumatic past event directly related to a representation of the offending party - the church where the ceremony is being held. The "friend" is evidently unable, or unwilling to respect or appreciate, the offer of an olive branch.
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You are confused. The OP declined due to personal feelings toward an entity that was guilty of great harm toward a sibling. The OP chose to be forthright with the "friend" about why he/she chose not to attend, and the "friend" chooses not to recognize the validity of the OP's feelings about setting foot inside a bastion of said entities power and influence. There is no comparison to what you stated earlier. As for having cake later, the "friend" chose to decline the OP's offer to attend the reception, as is their right, but I also think it is more a reflection of either an under developed bond between the two, or a more shallow response on the part of the "friend".
The OP is offering to show support and appreciation by attending the reception, if permitted, on neutral ground due to a traumatic past event directly related to a representation of the offending party - the church where the ceremony is being held. The "friend" is evidently unable, or unwilling to respect or appreciate, the offer of an olive branch.
I'm not the least bit confused, and you may not know it, but that's a very arrogant thing to say so you might want to check that in your face to face relationships.
OP has indicated they reached a decision so I am closing this thread as there is a lot of religion bashing in it which is against the TOS that plainly state "Bashing of any kind is not allowed"
Please remember that we have a Religion forum here for those topics about Religion
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