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WHY do you have to say anything to anyone who has been rude and insulting to you??WHY? I'm so tired of having to play 'nice' to people who are not nice.Stop being fake like they are being with you.Don't say anything to them even if they say 'hi' because YOU know they don't mean it so why bother using your breath to say anything to them?Walk on by.
I DON'T say anything to them, that is what I am meaning, I don't reply to their greetings even though I look them in their eyes.
They work with my relatives, and are long time (20 year+) employees, so I can't rattle things too much..but I am often in passing mode with them in their work.
If not for the context (work), I would dish it back at them.
I DON'T say anything to them, that is what I am meaning, I don't reply to their greetings even though I look them in their eyes.
They work with my relatives, and are long time (20 year+) employees, so I can't rattle things too much..but I am often in passing mode with them in their work.
If not for the context (work), I would dish it back at them.
Looks like you've missed the point of the replies. Don't "dish" anything; not a silent lethal look, not a deliberate snub, nothing. Be boringly (and maturely) civil, forget the snark, and get on with life.
Ah heck, you won't listen. Why bother to write this?
Ever so often I still have to cross paths with the 2 catty acquaintances that talk smack about me. They are two-faced and thrive on mind games, so they will try to play nice and greet me with "Hello". These ladies not only talk about trivial things behind my back but I've heard thru the grapevine also about my sexuality, made some references to my race, etc
Looks like you've missed the point of the replies. Don't "dish" anything; not a silent lethal look, not a deliberate snub, nothing. Be boringly (and maturely) civil, forget the snark, and get on with life.
Ah heck, you won't listen. Why bother to write this?
Yes, our OP craves melodrama, so there’s no point to advice, really.
They were rude, OP is rude, the cycle will continue in perpetuity.
What are you hoping to accomplish by not returning the "Hello?" I could see that if you have to continue to work in the same place as these folks, little is likely to be gained by not saying Hi back, and it might make your life harder or at least not better in the future. If you are wanting them to know you're not happy with them, there are better ways to accomplish it than passive aggressiveness.
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Ever so often I still have to cross paths with the 2 catty acquaintances that talk smack about me. They are two-faced and thrive on mind games, so they will try to play nice and greet me with "Hello". These ladies not only talk about trivial things behind my back but I've heard thru the grapevine also about my sexuality, made some references to my race, etc
The last few times I got tired of acknowledging people I didn't like, so I looked them in the eyes as they said "Hello" but didn't say anything back.
Also if they are among others when I am leaving, I will deliberately say "Bye (others' name)" in front of them.
Does it cause more friction/ drama or just sends a clear message to "Stay away"?
If I don’t like you, I’m not even going to pretend to hide it. I won’t say hi back to you if I don’t like you. Rude? Yes. I’m willing to suffer the consequences at the cost of not being fake like most people.
If I don’t like you, I’m not even going to pretend to hide it. I won’t say hi back to you if I don’t like you. Rude? Yes. I’m willing to suffer the consequences at the cost of not being fake like most people.
It’s not about being fake. I’m not going to change my behavior due to someone else’s behavior. Not going to give that much power over me. They don’t need to know what I’m thinking.
Aside from that, what you don’t realize is by snubbing them you justify their own poor behavior and they know they’ve gotten to you (again loss of power just in them knowing that), while the way I do it, not letting their behavior dictate mine and continuing to be who I am, which is a friendly person, they end up feeling like A-holes by contrast. It’s the opposite of fake really. I’m staying true to me despite someone trying to get me to become angry.
If I don’t like you, I’m not even going to pretend to hide it. I won’t say hi back to you if I don’t like you. Rude? Yes. I’m willing to suffer the consequences at the cost of not being fake like most people.
I fail to see how a common greeting is being “fake”. In some cultures, it is just a requirement that you greet people every day regardless. You don’t have to make any other type of communication other than “good morning,” “hi,” or “good night,” if you don’t want to.
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