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This sounds like it came from our drama queen granddaughter. Just grin, nod your head and keep walking. Or do whatever you want to do and keep it going and going. No need both of you stooping that low. Show them you're better than that.
Ever so often I still have to cross paths with the 2 catty acquaintances that talk smack about me. They are two-faced and thrive on mind games, so they will try to play nice and greet me with "Hello". These ladies not only talk about trivial things behind my back but I've heard thru the grapevine also about my sexuality, made some references to my race, etc
The last few times I got tired of acknowledging people I didn't like, so I looked them in the eyes as they said "Hello" but didn't say anything back.
Also if they are among others when I am leaving, I will deliberately say "Bye (others' name)" in front of them.
Does it cause more friction/ drama or just sends a clear message to "Stay away"?
It does create the loss of an opportunity for healing and to determine if things have changed interpersonally. Sometimes, but rarely, they do. An example:
I was not popular in Junior High School, which we now call middle school. Someone I now am a close acquaintance of, Michael, bullied me when we were in junior high school together, from about 1967 to 1971. We really didn't have contact until 1988. That summer he and others from our junior high school were playing beach football. I was brought into the game by Dave, someone who I'd been friendly with in junior high school and then from 1984 on. When we were in junior high school I was not athletic, making me easy to bully. Dave knew that had changed since he remains a close friend; Michael didn't.
During the 1988 beach football game, he was assigned to guard me. He was only half-watching, since he didn't expect I would be passed the ball. David, knowing my current abilities, passed me the ball. I caught itl and of course started running toward the goal. I was about 20 or 30 yards down the beach before Michael noticed anything. To salve his humiliation he challenged me to tennis. I beat him 6-0, 6-1 in tennis, on a 96+° day. Two summers later I was dating my girlfriend, now wife. He asked to be assigned a cabin room in our cabin. He sheepishly apologized and "hoped QRS was behind me." I said, "of course." We have continued to be acquaintances.
The other postscript was that I got married in 1991 and am still happily married. He married in 1999, and within a few years he was divorced.
Ever so often I still have to cross paths with the 2 catty acquaintances that talk smack about me. They are two-faced and thrive on mind games, so they will try to play nice and greet me with "Hello". These ladies not only talk about trivial things behind my back but I've heard thru the grapevine also about my sexuality, made some references to my race, etc
The last few times I got tired of acknowledging people I didn't like, so I looked them in the eyes as they said "Hello" but didn't say anything back.
Also if they are among others when I am leaving, I will deliberately say "Bye (others' name)" in front of them.
Does it cause more friction/ drama or just sends a clear message to "Stay away"?
I think the "saying bye to some other person" when they are also around is causing drama that is completely unnecessary. That's catty behavior, too.
As for acknowledging people you don't like - I've had that happen to me, and I'm shocked that they even say "hi". Why? We aren't friends, why are they even bothering? But, we do know each other, so I just say "Hi" back and keep walking. (The very few times this has ever happened, that is.)
Just be the bigger person, say "Hi", keep going about your business, and don't let them sit in your mind. They don't deserve the spot.
Ever so often I still have to cross paths with the 2 catty acquaintances that talk smack about me. They are two-faced and thrive on mind games, so they will try to play nice and greet me with "Hello". These ladies not only talk about trivial things behind my back but I've heard thru the grapevine also about my sexuality, made some references to my race, etc
The last few times I got tired of acknowledging people I didn't like, so I looked them in the eyes as they said "Hello" but didn't say anything back.
Also if they are among others when I am leaving, I will deliberately say "Bye (others' name)" in front of them.
Does it cause more friction/ drama or just sends a clear message to "Stay away"?
Can't really do anything to people like those. Punch them in the face? Get mad? Either way they win. I would tend to ignore them but, if you have to fight/argue then you have to fight. Maybe even throw the S word out there loud and clear, slander. You just have to push back sometimes.
Ever so often I still have to cross paths with the 2 catty acquaintances that talk smack about me. They are two-faced and thrive on mind games, so they will try to play nice and greet me with "Hello". These ladies not only talk about trivial things behind my back but I've heard thru the grapevine also about my sexuality, made some references to my race, etc
The last few times I got tired of acknowledging people I didn't like, so I looked them in the eyes as they said "Hello" but didn't say anything back.
Also if they are among others when I am leaving, I will deliberately say "Bye (others' name)" in front of them.
Does it cause more friction/ drama or just sends a clear message to "Stay away"?
The "bye" with names seems lame and catty. You don't have to say goodbye to them, but pointedly not including makes you look immature.
Whether or not I like someone, if I see them and they greet me, I greet them civilly and move on with my life.
Don't engage in this passive-aggressive crap. It just makes you think about it. If you forget about them and what they're doing and just act like a nice, normal human, their power evaporates.
The "bye" with names seems lame and catty. You don't have to say goodbye to them, but pointedly not including makes you look immature.
Whether or not I like someone, if I see them and they greet me, I greet them civilly and move on with my life.
Don't engage in this passive-aggressive crap. It just makes you think about it. If you forget about them and what they're doing and just act like a nice, normal human, their power evaporates.
Ever so often I still have to cross paths with the 2 catty acquaintances that talk smack about me. They are two-faced and thrive on mind games, so they will try to play nice and greet me with "Hello". These ladies not only talk about trivial things behind my back but I've heard thru the grapevine also about my sexuality, made some references to my race, etc
The last few times I got tired of acknowledging people I didn't like, so I looked them in the eyes as they said "Hello" but didn't say anything back. Also if they are among others when I am leaving, I will deliberately say "Bye (others' name)" in front of them.
Does it cause more friction/ drama or just sends a clear message to "Stay away"?
Yes, it's rude.
It would be more fun to talk to them at great, exhausting length, exuding friendliness, and edge so close to them that you're intruding on their personal boundaries. And make up a bunch of catty gossip that you claim others are saying about them.
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