Is It Rude To Not Say "Hi" Back to Someone You Don't Like (person, adults)
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Ever so often I still have to cross paths with the 2 catty acquaintances that talk smack about me. They are two-faced and thrive on mind games, so they will try to play nice and greet me with "Hello". These ladies not only talk about trivial things behind my back but I've heard thru the grapevine also about my sexuality, made some references to my race, etc
If these are work acquaintances, I would continue to be "distantly cordial" lol, but try to avoid contact with them. You never know how your actions can come back to bite you in the a** in ways that you didn't intend.
If they are personal acquaintances, I would do everything I can to avoid having to deal with them again including dropping them on social media, avoiding encounters (don't make eye contact, go the other way) and not responding to any invitations. I would also avoid direct confrontations as sometimes that's what people are looking for.
Just my two cents.
Last edited by CarolinaMoon1; 09-05-2019 at 08:29 AM..
To me, ignoring them as you are doing isn't a position of power. IMHO it makes you look intimidated, and saying bye to someone in front of them while ignoring them is childish.
Taking the high road is a philosophy you should look into. It really would make your life better and get you out of all these petty encounters you seem to have.
You can be cordial to them and acknowledge their presence without being BFFs.
Ever so often I still have to cross paths with the 2 catty acquaintances that talk smack about me. They are two-faced and thrive on mind games, so they will try to play nice and greet me with "Hello". These ladies not only talk about trivial things behind my back but I've heard thru the grapevine also about my sexuality, made some references to my race, etc
The last few times I got tired of acknowledging people I didn't like, so I looked them in the eyes as they said "Hello" but didn't say anything back.
Also if they are among others when I am leaving, I will deliberately say "Bye (others' name)" in front of them.
Does it cause more friction/ drama or just sends a clear message to "Stay away"?
I don’t know to me it sounds passive aggressive and childish. Especially this but saying bye to others and not them. Why is it so important that they know you don’t like them?
This sounds more like teenage drama at high school than adults at work
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Originally Posted by krosser100
Ever so often I still have to cross paths with the 2 catty acquaintances that talk smack about me. They are two-faced and thrive on mind games, so they will try to play nice and greet me with "Hello". These ladies not only talk about trivial things behind my back but I've heard thru the grapevine also about my sexuality, made some references to my race, etc
To me, ignoring them as you are doing isn't a position of power. IMHO it makes you look intimidated, and saying bye to someone in front of them while ignoring them is childish.
Taking the high road is a philosophy you should look into. It really would make your life better and get you out of all these petty encounters you seem to have.
You can be cordial to them and acknowledge their presence without being BFFs.
This. You are giving these people power over you. You think they don't get a laugh every time you overtly acknowledge them by 'ignoring' them? OP, they know what you're doing, and it only stirs up more talking and laughing behind your back. You're giving them fodder.
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