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I had 2 stepchildren and a son of my own. I often referred to them as “my kids.” It would have been awkward to say “my son and my step-kids” in a conversation that had no relationship to the matter at hand.
In the context you described, you are in fact “one of his sons”; you are his step son and indeed one of his “sons.”
My daughter considers my husband her dad and has never referred to him as anything else. They couldn't love each other more if he was her biological father.
Your father sounds like a wonderful man and you are fortunate to have him.
I have 3 step daughters. I’ll usually just refer to them as “the girls” or “my husband’s daughters” (I dislike the “step” term). I might refer to them as “my” daughters if I’m talking to someone who wouldn’t know or care, like a casual conversation with a someone on a plane or in the grocery store. They call me by my first name and I would never expect or really want them to call me “Mom” - they have a mother.
Now my husband’s grandchildren, I do refer to them as my grandkids and they call me Grandma or Grandma Okey. I’ve been around since before any of them were born, and I figure you can’t have too many Grandmas.
The last time I visited my stepfather I was with his biological son at a senior living apartment. As we walked out, a staff member he knew well approached us. My stepfather introduced my stepbrother with a smile as his son. After a long awkward pause, the man looked at me with some confusion. I shook his hand and introduced myself using my own last name and said I’m the other one. That was the last time I saw or spoke with that a##hole, he died two years later.
It doesn't make any difference how kids come into our lives. I have sons who came to us by marriage. They are terrific men and love our daughters and grandkids to pieces.
I think of them and refer to them as sons. So awkward to call them anything else.
Do let him know how much you appreciate how kind he is to your mother.
And I wouldn't recommend asking him if you can call him Dad. Just the next time you introduce them, just say, "This is my Mom and Dad," and let it go at that.
If you do mention it to him, I wouldn't say it was "weird" like you mentioned in your first post. That might sound like you don't approve.
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