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Just out of curiosity, have your parents at any point in your life said to you?
"I brought you into this world & I can take you out."
I know it's a common statement for some reason, but I think it's a horrible, unnecessary thing to say. I strongly believe NO parent should say it under any circumstances, but I'm sure parents do say it. My SO thinks that more parents that not say that. I don't think so personally.
I'll start. My parents never, ever said that to me. My SO's (toxic) father said it to him all the time so as to hold power over him & put fear in his mind...NOT because my SO was a bad kid/teen.
It started as a joke. I first heard Bill Cosby say it in a stand-up routine in the early 80s.
I don't believe parents who do say it actually mean they are going to KILL their children when they say it, any more than someone would truly wait "until the cows come home" to do something.
If your husband's father used that saying in seriousness, he was abusive.
I’ve heard it and it was said in more of a joking matter, I’m fine and never thought it was said in cruel or hurtful matter. I do realize that your so father may have said it to be cruel though and understandable that you feel that way.
Just out of curiosity, have your parents at any point in your life said to you?
"I brought you into this world & I can take you out."
I know it's a common statement for some reason, but I think it's a horrible, unnecessary thing to say. I strongly believe NO parent should say it under any circumstances, but I'm sure parents do say it. My SO thinks that more parents that not say that. I don't think so personally.
I'll start. My parents never, ever said that to me. My SO's (toxic) father said it to him all the time so as to hold power over him & put fear in his mind...NOT because my SO was a bad kid/teen.
We never took it literally that they would kill us. We knew our parents loved us. It was just their way of saying ‘cut it out or you’re getting spanked or punished’.
They used that saying AND they spanked us and we turned out just fine.
I don’t remember ever saying it to my son. I’d just give him the ‘look’ and he knew to settle down.
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