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Its really common in my circle and j hate it. I just had a male friend say it to me when I was explaining the circumstances of why another couple had cancelled plans. I wasn't upset about this but he said " just breathe. Take a deep breath " and i got annoyed and confused.
I'm glad it's not common with others. I hope it doesn't catch on.
I think people say that when you overreact over something minor. At least that's what I experience. I have had people tell me just breathe and take a deep breath. And it was always justified.
Same. I don't think anyone has ever said it to me. I've never said it to another adult, only to my preschool students when one of them is all worked up and crying.
I think people say that when you overreact over something minor. At least that's what I experience. I have had people tell me just breathe and take a deep breath. And it was always justified.
What this well-intentioned person really meant was to slow your roll, quit overreacting to whatever it is, then take a calm breath, re-think, and start again. Like so many things, the intention has gotten warped out of recognition into a catchphrase. Guess I prefer to honor the intention, not the verbiage. I'm glad someone noticed I was upset. I know what they meant. So sorry some others can't be bothered...they live on alert and have to jump straight to anger.
What this well-intentioned person really meant was to slow your roll, quit overreacting to whatever it is, then take a calm breath, re-think, and start again. Like so many things, the intention has gotten warped out of recognition into a catchphrase. Guess I prefer to honor the intention, not the verbiage. I'm glad someone noticed I was upset. I know what they meant. So sorry some others can't be bothered...they live on alert and have to jump straight to anger.
But most of the time this attributes being upset to a situation where no one actually is. To me it seems like telling someone to smile because they look upset. Managing other people's emotions for them is very rude.
The phrase is as bad as saying, “Calm down” or “you are over reacting.”
Using it just makes the other person mad.
I worked 7 years on a suicide crisis hotline and we would have been fired if we told callers “calm down” or “ you’re overreacting “ . I can’t imagine saying “take a deep breath” being helpful or useful either.
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I worked 7 years on a suicide crisis hotline and we would have been fired if we told callers “calm down” or “ you’re overreacting “ . I can’t imagine saying “take a deep breath” being helpful or useful either.
