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Hello, My wife and I have been living a rural neighborhood for a few months. It is nice and quiet, with middle aged couples and elderly, but it's possible it filled with gossiping, nosy neighbors. When we moved in, only one person has come by and said hello, this neighbor at the time had in-laws living in the house. The others haven't said anything. After some time passed, this one person invited us and others over for a gathering and we met them and rest of the neighbors. More time passed, one evening I was talking to my sister outside on the phone and she was telling me about some bad experiences she's had and I told some of mine BUT none of it had anything to do with my neighbors I don't even know them!, the next day this in-law is talking from the porch to the neighbor across the street at his fence. I couldn't hear what they were talking about, BUT it sounded like they were talking about someone and laughing, etc. The next time I saw this neighbor he was mowing, I waved and he waved back but with a frown on his face. Then another time from a neighbors house, someone saw me and growled something from a distance but I couldn't see them. This is what I think happened, this in-law eavesdropped on my phone conversation, I don't what was made of it, but it wasn't good. This neighbor I believe has spread this trash about me, (whatever it is) since the in-law left. I've talked since, and asked if we were ok and said "why shouldn't we", Liar? It's beyond me why these people treat me like this, they don't know me. Now the same person who had the first one, is having another gathering. I can't decide if i'm going or not, I don't know if I want to be around these people, they're liable to give me the cold shoulder anyhow. Thanks for listening.
I think you should go. At least to try and change whatever perception your neighbors might have of you.
Show them that you can be open and gregarious. You can't always help people's perceptions of you, but it seems like this gathering is a golden opportunity to try.
I think you should go. At least to try and change whatever perception your neighbors might have of you.
Show them that you can be open and gregarious. You can't always help people's perceptions of you, but it seems like this gathering is a golden opportunity to try.
Go and loudly tell the story of your sister calling to talk about bad neighbors. Then say how you shared stories of your old bad neighbors while outside. End with “Gee. I hope no one overheard that and thought I meant my new neighbors! You people are great and I can’t wait to get to know more of you!”
Hello, My wife and I have been living a rural neighborhood for a few months. It is nice and quiet, with middle aged couples and elderly, but it's possible it filled with gossiping, nosy neighbors. When we moved in, only one person has come by and said hello, this neighbor at the time had in-laws living in the house. The others haven't said anything. After some time passed, this one person invited us and others over for a gathering and we met them and rest of the neighbors. More time passed, one evening I was talking to my sister outside on the phone and she was telling me about some bad experiences she's had and I told some of mine BUT none of it had anything to do with my neighbors I don't even know them!, the next day this in-law is talking from the porch to the neighbor across the street at his fence. I couldn't hear what they were talking about, BUT it sounded like they were talking about someone and laughing, etc. The next time I saw this neighbor he was mowing, I waved and he waved back but with a frown on his face. Then another time from a neighbors house, someone saw me and growled something from a distance but I couldn't see them. This is what I think happened, this in-law eavesdropped on my phone conversation, I don't what was made of it, but it wasn't good. This neighbor I believe has spread this trash about me, (whatever it is) since the in-law left. I've talked since, and asked if we were ok and said "why shouldn't we", Liar? It's beyond me why these people treat me like this, they don't know me. Now the same person who had the first one, is having another gathering. I can't decide if i'm going or not, I don't know if I want to be around these people, they're liable to give me the cold shoulder anyhow. Thanks for listening.
So you live in a rural area, but your neighbors are so close they can hear your phone conversations?
You’re way overthinking it. If you are concerned something was said, go talk to them. You’re assuming the worst and it could be nothing.
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