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I see no problem with a cartilage piercing, and consider them pretty common anyway. If she likes it and it can be hidden if necessary, it should be a non-issue. In the grand scheme of things there is absolutely no point getting worked up or disapproving over an adult getting a minor piercing.
She's doing it to p1ss you off. She thinks that makes her 'cool'. Therefore, the piercings are 'cool'.
I had to lay it down hard on my brother to take his eyebrow piercing out. I kept telling him "I never see ANYONE on your facebook page with that. It makes you look like a teenager (he's just 20)."
If you're lucky, she'll take it out. Hopefully before she's 40.
I don't agree with that.
I did all of my piercings because I WANTED them, not to spite anyone.
I have wanted my belly button pierced for 6 years, since I was 15 years old, so this wasn't a new and rebellious decision.
I did them for me and no one else and I don't think the OP's daughter did this to just to be pissing in the OP's wheaties.
If she's throwing the "I'm 18 and legal" in your face, you throw back "and you ain't gonna pierce your self, tatt yourself etc. while you live at home and if you don't like my rules: here's the door."
Why are parents so afraid of their children reactions?
And in the grand scheme of things, what's fun at 18 ain't pretty at 30. Unless you have no expectations for your kids.
I see no problem with a cartilage piercing, and consider them pretty common anyway. If she likes it and it can be hidden if necessary, it should be a non-issue. In the grand scheme of things there is absolutely no point getting worked up or disapproving over an adult getting a minor piercing.
I don't get the "She's 18 so she is an adult" line. Yes legally I guess you are an adult at 18 but very few 18 year old kids are true adults, as in taking responsibility for their own lives, bills, shelter, food, etc.
I still believe if somebody living in my house, eating my food and taking financial aid from me and my husband, then they should not do something I don't approve. 18 or not. That's the way it rolls at our house.
I don't agree with that.
I did all of my piercings because I WANTED them, not to spite anyone.
You didn't wake up one day and start the advent of body piercings to be "different" .... so why did you want them?
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I have wanted my belly button pierced for 6 years, since I was 15 years old, so this wasn't a new and rebellious decision.
Why didn't you get one when you were 15? Someone older and in control said, "don't, it's trashy"?
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I did them for me and no one else and I don't think the OP's daughter did this to just to be pissing in the OP's wheaties.
It's really hard to believe that piercings and tatts are so personal when so MANY have them just to "have" them - and they all look the same. No one is separating themselves any longer, they're just doing everything the end of gen x has done and the beginning of gen Y is still carrying on. BORING!
I don't see cartilage as a big deal either. I'm 19- all I have is the traditional lobe piercing, but have thought about getting a cartilage done (decided against it). It's so small though- and if you take it out, it's gone! The hole might be there, but you'd never be able to tell. If she decides she doesn't like it in a week, a year, a decade, she can just take it out.
Tattoos are a different issue (for me, at least). You can't just change your mind after it's done. And it costs a lot more and is far more visible. I don't understand tattoos personally.
If she's throwing the "I'm 18 and legal" in your face, you throw back "and you ain't gonna pierce your self, tatt yourself etc. while you live at home and if you don't like my rules: here's the door."
Why are parents so afraid of their children reactions?
And in the grand scheme of things, what's fun at 18 ain't pretty at 30. Unless you have no expectations for your kids.
Like I said, I don't think that is what the OP's daughter is doing.
And what you can do at one age you can't another, does that mean don't do it at all?
No it means do it while you can and if it makes you happy.
Do what makes you happy, sometimes you have to do stuff you don't like but your appearance, career, lifestyle etc...
Right now the OP's daughter is just doing what makes her happy and that is exactly what she should be doing.
I don't plan to make a big deal about it- just don't know why anyone wants to do that to their body.
Crowd following. Some people will do anything because it's a fad.
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