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Originally Posted by lkb0714
I disagree with most people. If your child barely knows your mom this sounds completely reasonable.
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I agree, I wouldn't expect the 2 years old to be happy and playful left with someone the child sees as a stranger on the first day. You might know her but the child doesn't, but should. That will always be hard with them out of state, the child will always feel a little weird with the gma that lives far away and she sees very little.
Also, this depends on your child's disposition. Is she fussy? Needs her mom? Or does she adjust well to others quickly?
Would your mom call the child a brat if she was pouty and afraid of her at first? Or would she be understanding and helpful.
Is your mom a smart ass about things that are personal? Would your mom blame your wife's mothering skills if the baby wasn't reacting to her like she wanted?
Also, I agree there is something wrong with you if you still don't know what your mom and wife are upset about. You are either lying or really not that close to your wife and that may be the problem.
Do you let your mom walk all over your wife because you are afraid to get involved? You seem afraid of your mom and her willful behavior, that might be why you married another version of your mother.
Other wise what mom in her right mind wouldn't like a break from a 2 year old. I think there is way, way more to this story.
If your mom is rude to your wife, it's you who needs to step in and have a talk with your mom. Not just shrug your shoulders and say, oh well, she's a straight talker honey, your on your own. You don't allow your wife to be polite, you force her to brawl with your mom. Man up dude. Seriously.
You could have stopped this a long time ago. You should have been clear with your mom that you are married now, and she needs to watch her mouth. It sounds like you just told your mom, IDK mom, she runs this ship now.
So, now you have a mom who thinks she needs to pick up what you can't do, and she's use to that. And a wife who feels the same. This is your fault. You need to fix it.
The minute your mom says something rude you need to say, hey mom, that's rude please don't do that around us. "I don't like it". Not, 'my wife will get made at you."
Until your child gets older they need to visit you, it's expensive and exhausting to go there. They don't have the little one, you do. They can travel light.
Plan a time when you are all off work for a bit. All hang out together and nip that strong woman bs attitude in the bud, on both ends. Although I have a feeling if you man up with your mom your wife won't act that way anymore. It doesn't seem that she likes being the man in the relationship, that's part of her problem. She is trying to fix what you can't and it's uncomfortable and she is mad at you for it.
This is all my opinion of course but it seems odd you have so little to say when it comes to your mom or wife.