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he's not smart. Smart is reserved for the kids who make it into the ivies. your kid is dumb and a soon to be criminal. let me guess, his dad is the same way?
Twinkletoes, you said it perfect! You are right on spot!! A 16 year old is just a baby and doesn't believe any different. As a parent I do not believe our responsibility ends when our under age teenagers living at home start defying us. I think we make a stand and if they try to take off have them arrested and do some time in JD. I would much rather my son have a record than move away with adult friends that have made it clear they do not respect your wishes and most importantly disregard their 16 yr old friends best interest. I am going through a very similar situation. It has nothing to do with not having a role model,school,or not being fair rather his age and who he is hanging around. When he is 16 and friends are 18, 20, 21 or even older that smoke, don't have jobs and come and go as they please. He thinks he's being treated like a baby bc he is not able to CLEARLY understand he does not have those same privelages because he is only 16. Go talk face to face with his friends without your son. Block all of the friends that are adults and make you uncomfortable for him to be around. Talk to local law enforcement, again without him around to find out your options and ask for a little more monitoring of him when he's out. Ask that they do not go easy on him. If he's out past curfew, smoking, cutting through yards (trespassing), or anything they can pick him up for.. Do IT!! So he can see the softer side of what is to come if he continues disrespect for rules (law) and irresponsibility when he actually is 18 and considered an adult. My heart goes out to you. Don't give up!! And NEVER STOP showing how much you love him and how far you will go to protect and prepare him for all of life ahead. Don't move. Sit down and talk to him. Show him you are willing to try to find other ways of handling your health so he isn't away from all he knows. However you expect behavior changes and more responsible behavior from him. Remind him its for him. You'd rather move to feel better but you want it to be because you both want you to be healthy not for him to perceive it as punishment. May God bless you and your family.
I hope that your post is a weak attempt at humor. Kids shouldn't be afraid of their parents, they should respect them. One can't fear and respect a person at the same time.
No, actually, you cannot fear and respect someone at the same time.
Fear disempowers people. If you are afraid, you tend to go into survival mode. Fear breeds anxiety, cynicism, distrust and intimidation. Fear also creates children or people who will get over on you if they can.
Respect, otoh, encourages communication and creativity. Respect earns the trust of your children or other people. Fear does not do this.
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