I don't know how I should feel about this (clever, dealing, child support)

[Inkpoe]

Originally Posted by irishfan77

Tonight she was sober. At this point he isn't rattled by her rants anymore. I told her that it was inappropriate and she stood by her comments

Of course she would.

Have you discussed this particular issue in therapy, both of them? Have you guys discussed it in depth?

[irishfan77]

Originally Posted by Inkpoe

Of course she would.

Have you discussed this particular issue in therapy, both of them? Have you guys discussed it in depth?

Yes and she promises to change but never lasts more than a short amount of time

[Kibbiekat]

Originally Posted by irishfan77

Yes and she promises to change but never lasts more than a short amount of time

I don't think this is something she can promise to change. She either wants to see your son grow up and go to college, or she doesn't. Clearly she doesn't, which bogles the mind. She need to figure out, with the therapist, why she so strongly believes fun should outweigh school, which will lead her back to her feelings about her teens...

[Zimbochick]

Just curious why this thread is still in the Parenting forum?

[BirdieBelle]

I recall early on thinking the group of bottom-dwellers who haunt the Relationships forum would not help at all.

At this point, I'm thinking Psychology would be a better fit than Parenting,though.

[steelstress]

The topic vacilates between her issues with their son, and Irish's issues with her and their marriage. They're both intertwined together.

[irishfan77]

I just can't understand why she can't leave her teen years behind. I mean yeah, my teen years were cool, but I'd rather have my son.

[beera]

I didn't read it all, but honestly I'd be going to marriage counseling at this point and maybe even taking a good hard look at my marriage. And your kid at 18 with no college plans you probably don't need to pay child support and besides any property you two can go separate ways. I'm not big into ultimatums but I think you need one here. You aren't asking much except for your son to be an adult, no job until he's 21? By that time employers will say "so you sat on your ass for 3 years, no college, no job, yeah, we aren't even going to interview you."

[njmom66]

Originally Posted by beera

I didn't read it all, but honestly I'd be going to marriage counseling at this point and maybe even taking a good hard look at my marriage. And your kid at 18 with no college plans you probably don't need to pay child support and besides any property you two can go separate ways. I'm not big into ultimatums but I think you need one here. You aren't asking much except for your son to be an adult, no job until he's 21? By that time employers will say "so you sat on your ass for 3 years, no college, no job, yeah, we aren't even going to interview you."

You missed the part, his son IS going to attend community college in the fall.

[beera]

Dang, that's what I get for not reading through 100 pages of posts! lol.