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You SHOULD feel good. Definitely an improvement over how you would have handled this in the past. You are making progress. Good for you. You may not be where you should be in this relationship, but you are headed in the right direction. Keep it up.
Rrah....normally I love your advice, but have to disagree with you on him supporting his wife's ridiculous punishment. It really was outrageously punitive for such a small infraction.
I agree that it's ridiculous, but given the circumstances of the "split-parenting," which the son seems to have picked up on, the previous examples of the wife not supporting Irish in his parenting decisions, etc. I thought it best to error on the side of the marital relationship. Irish can discuss it with his wife out of earshot of the son, but it should be her decision to change it. They've got to start somewhere. I've not always been a great example of a great marriage, but one thing my spouse and I were pretty darn good at was not undermining the other in front of our kids, even if we thought the punishment, etc. was ridiculous or disagreed. We did and do respect the other's parenting. Maybe should have explained better earlier
OP - All through your posts are things like "I asked her out to dinner" or "I brought her flowers" or "I told her she was beautiful". You act like a date not a husband and your wife acts the same. Have the two of you EVER had an adult partnership? I don't see it if you have. You and she are still in the "dating" phase of your relationship regardless of how long you've been married. There is some serious need for you both to grow up and figure out if you can handle a grown-up marriage.
OP - All through your posts are things like "I asked her out to dinner" or "I brought her flowers" or "I told her she was beautiful". You act like a date not a husband and your wife acts the same. Have the two of you EVER had an adult partnership? There is some serious need for you both to grow up and figure out if you can handle a grown-up marriage.
I see what you mean and I agree. I think that at times we can act like we're 18-20 when we're not. I guess my explanation is, we had a child at 18, most people don't have kids until their late 20s or early 30s so we were 10+ years ahead of ourselves and we missed out on being young.
I see what you mean and I agree. I think that at times we can act like we're 18-20 when we're not. I guess my explanation is, we had a child at 18, most people don't have kids until their late 20s or early 30s so we were 10+ years ahead of ourselves and we missed out on being young.
You were adult enough to hop into bed with each other.
Why aren't you adult enough to deal with the consequence? Sorry, 18-year old's were once drafted. The had their future decided for them and they grew up in a hurry. You CHOSE to have sex, created a child, have been a parent for 18 YEARS and you think you can have the excuse of "we missed out on being young"?
I see what you mean and I agree. I think that at times we can act like we're 18-20 when we're not. I guess my explanation is, we had a child at 18, most people don't have kids until their late 20s or early 30s so we were 10+ years ahead of ourselves and we missed out on being young.
Not trying to be mean. But it seems like what you both skipped was growing up. Alas now is the time.
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