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Old 05-17-2015, 02:55 AM
 
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We had pool parties when I was a tween and we ladies always wore a T shirt by choice.
Guess we all had low self-esteem?
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Old 05-17-2015, 06:52 AM
 
Location: Central IL
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Either boys need to also have to wear a tshirt - because wet tshirts are a PIA and no fun at all to wear in a pool - or let's just say the whole concept of having a pool party is off-limits. No pool parties, no activities other than those where a regular school-acceptable outfit could be worn. And this whole thing on dress codes is getting CRAZY - thank god I'm not a kid now!
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Old 05-17-2015, 06:53 AM
 
Location: Central IL
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We had pool parties when I was a tween and we ladies always wore a T shirt by choice.
Guess we all had low self-esteem?
Yup - or there was no supervision and the boys were not forced to learn to control themselves and be polite.
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Old 05-17-2015, 07:08 AM
 
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We had pool parties when I was a tween and we ladies always wore a T shirt by choice.
Guess we all had low self-esteem?
If it was a community standard that you just did because how it was done in your area than no.

However if you covered up because you thought your body was shameful...then yeah....there is an issue.
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Old 05-17-2015, 08:43 AM
 
Location: Wisconsin
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The best part is the mom in question has a son not a daughter.
Good catch. I missed that.
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Old 05-17-2015, 08:44 AM
 
Location: Myrtle Creek, Oregon
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Yup. I have always disliked how we teach the girls to cover up, instead of teaching the boys not to stare. So silly.
Of course we teach the boys not to stare. Most of them learn it by the time they are 30.
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Old 05-17-2015, 08:47 AM
 
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My computer won't open the link.

I buy rash guards for my sons and daughter. We use it for sun protection. It also works to keep the swim wear more modest. Since they are made to be worn in water, they are a lot more comfortable than a t-shirt.
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Old 05-17-2015, 09:03 AM
 
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My computer won't open the link.

I buy rash guards for my sons and daughter. We use it for sun protection. It also works to keep the swim wear more modest. Since they are made to be worn in water, they are a lot more comfortable than a t-shirt.
My daughter wore a lot of rash guards when she swim in the ocean....I had forgotten about them. we used them mist for sum protection.

Something tells me they wouldn't be allowed at this school either. There is often some stomach showing depending how tall waisted the child is and the guards are form fitting. Still if girls would be required to wear the, so should the boys
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Old 05-19-2015, 09:56 AM
 
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I have a genuine question for the " shaming the child" and "self esteem" crowd and I'm not trying to be difficult. Most teen/tween girls I know would probably shrug, be annoyed but cover up at the end and go about their business of having fun. My daughter gets annoyed at the dress code, complies and carries on with her business. Is this body shaming something the parents are magnifying and making an issue for their kids? Or is this having a deep psychological impact on these young ladies?

It seems this is more of a parent problem with the rules?
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Old 05-19-2015, 11:15 AM
 
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Boys are free to run around with little swimming pants, girls, huh, wear a shirt over a swimming suit, which from the beginning is half bigger and hides half more than boys little pants
As a matter of fact, boys in the US don't wear the European "little swimming pants" either. My nephew visited from Germany when he was about 8, and after one trip to the pool in his Speedos he begged his mom to buy him some American swim trunks that covered up a bit more.

Not saying girls should have to wear T-shirts, though.

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