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My child was born a few months before her cousin. They are both girls and are great friends! Your wife should be happy. Maybe it's just her raging hormones and she'll calm down. Congrats, btw on the new addition you will soon have
Yeah, that is not normal. My sister-in-law and I got pregnant with our first babies at about the same time. Everyone was excited that there would be grandchildren/cousins the same age in the family, including me and her. Unfortunately she miscarried that time, so it didn't happen. (She did get pregnant again and had a baby about 7 months after my daughter was born).
Your wife sounds like a drama queen who to have things all about her. It also makes no sense that she would be jealous that the grandparents see their other grandchild more than your son, when she is the one who is limiting their visits. I don't know what to tell you, except I'm so sorry.
No, it's not normal. I mean, there is some normalcy in pregnancy hormones causing out of proportion reactions, but it seems that she really dislikes your family in general and she's letting it affect your child and you. I have super irritating inlaws. I don't "like" them. But I don't tell my children that and I don't stand in the way of my kids' relationships with them. My feelings are my feelings and they deserve to have their own. Plus, it's not like your SIL planned to have a baby at the exact.same.time. and cousins close in age are great to grow up with. She could use a little therapy. If she doesn't like your family, so be it, but she needs to act respectfully for your sake and your children's sake.
Sounds like the grandparents have good reason to like the other sibling's family more.
She really should get counseling to make your life easier and to learn to be happy herself.
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This can't be normal can it? Has anyone seen a situation like this?
I just found out today that my brother and his wife are pregnant with their second kid...they just hit the 12 week mark and the baby will be due early December. They have another kid who is 3. My wife and I have a son that is 15 months and are also expecting a second baby around early December.
My wife hates my brother's wife and thinks my parents favor her/them much more over us....that's probably because my niece gets to see my parents all the time and with my kid, my wife puts moratoriums on when my parents can visit our son..like every 2 weeks or so. To add insult to injury, my wife also dislikes my niece because she came from my sister in law.
Needless to say my wife is not only pissed they are having a second kid at all, but also that he/she will be born around the same time as our second one. She had a cute idea to announce to my family on father's day, but now she just wants me to text them or call them...not even tell them in person ! (They live 15 minutes away). She thinks now that our second kid will be irrelevant beause my brother's second kid will be the hot topic of the year from my parents' perspective.
So I ask - this isn't normal is it? Has anyone else had any family drama where kids from the same general family are born around the week? I try to tell her "just focus on our two kids", but I have the feeling I'm going to be the target of her envy and disappointment for a long time...as if I can control when other people decide to have babies.
Your wife seems to be mentally unstable. Beware....
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This isn't all that unusual, although to me it's bizarre.
I had a child who was born within weeks of my sister's child, and another child who was born within weeks of my sister in law's child.
We loved being pregnant "together". And it was good to sit and commiserate when the kids wouldn't go down for naps, had ear infections, etc.
So let me ask you. Did you honestly not see this coming before the wedding? Were there NO signs that she was petty and jealous and small before you were committed? How does she behave about her birthday?
First of all, talk to her about not normal this is. She will miss out on many happy times.
In my family, there were 4 sibs - all married within 3 years - then had 12 children between us over a 6 1/2 year period.
Result: Someone was always pregnant; we all lived within 10 minutes of each other and today, all those children are adults, friends with each other and support each other!
WE LOVE THEM ALL!!
THE MORE THE MERRIER!!
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