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Saturday - I notice you said "closed off backyard" - does this mean fenced? It seems to me, the post in question did not mention a fence (back in "the day" everyone didn't have fenced off yards...), also, she did mention a very busy street.....different situation.
skbs - glad you are able to walk your dog. I'm sure that's nice for both of you.
KG - you are right about BACK THEN...geez, most people had better things to worry about than someone else's business. Not to mention kids weren't entertained to the extent that I see today. Hanging out in the backyard and learning to amuse yourself (while safe!) was a good thing. Fresh air, sunshine - how awful it must have been for him!
I don't get it.... i have kids and I totally agree with the poster..... why do you assume they don't have kids if they are asking why you need a LEASH for your child??? if you are there to WATCH THEM????? I don't get it either..... If you are supposed to be watching them why on earth would you need a leash to walk them like a dog? I hold my kids hands and it works just fine.... they are four and six and I have never lost them.... not once..... never..... haven't had to tie them up in the backyard either..... my dog on the other hand.... that is another story.... but not my kids.
We had a doggy one for my kids. They were runners. They would dart out. The backpack is way better than the wrist one. They would just tangle others up in the wrist one. I would much rather have a safe child than care what people thought of me.
We have one for my brother, bought it when he was about 2, he's was walking by 9 months, and he is a runner. After he managed to get away from my mom in the zoo and climbed behind a barrier.
He likes to walk, he doesn't like sitting in the stroller, he also does not like holding hands because he likes having his hands free.
His leash is a monkey backpack, and it's never bothered him. I hold the tail and he gets to walk and keep his hands free. He even likes to hold it in the car. For us it works. Even with 2 or 3 people watching him kids can take off in a heartbeat, or be snatched in a heartbeat. It's not about controllin him, its about letting him have FREEDOM while still being safe.
The leash is like an extention of my hand, and I really don't see the difference between hime holding my hand vs. me holding the leash, except that were both happier.
So, if you use this LEASH when do you finally teach your child to STAY PUT? Seriously? You teach them they can wander off basically. Give them the freedom you feel they "deserve".... but when do you teach them to listen to you? This leash nonsense sounds rediculous....
Well, being tied up does appear wrong....when you are on the outside looking in....don't think anyone will ever change my mind on that one though
Fair enough. I don't think anyone is trying to change your mind about what's right or works for you. Just trying to make the point that parents do what they feel they need to to keep a child safe. They know their own kids and situation better than you so maybe just don't be as quick to judge when you see something you personally might not choose to do. You might be choosing to do something that someone else finds very disturbing but it doesn't necessarily make it wrong. I have yet to meet the perfect parent so maybe we can be a little charitable in our attitudes toward others....
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So, if you use this LEASH when do you finally teach your child to STAY PUT? Seriously? You teach them they can wander off basically. Give them the freedom you feel they "deserve".... but when do you teach them to listen to you? This leash nonsense sounds rediculous....
Wow - and I thought you were calming down and seeing that no one was asking you to do something you didn't feel right about. But no! Apparently, you are the perfect parent I have yet to meet. Whew. Glad to know there is someone out there with all the answers. You said your kids were what? 6 and 4 or something? You do have it all down then. ..Everyone should follow your example. I'm sure the teachers at school, all your neighbors, friends and family are in awe of your perfect children and only wish they could match your parenting skills. Write a book, go on Oprah and make a million then. All the while teaching your kids that anyone who does things differently is WRONG...nice
Just curious - If you tell your kids to "stay" - is that treating them like a dog?
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I hold my kids hands and it works just fine.... they are four and six and I have never lost them.... not once..... never..... haven't had to tie them up in the backyard either..... my dog on the other hand.... that is another story.... but not my kids.
