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Should have realized the OP was a 4-post wonder. Would be nice to know what happened if it was a real life post.
I can tell you what is most likely.
They had a baby. She stays home, he tries to pay off her debt. When he comes home at 10pm from his second job he does the chores at home, the nanny leaves and he takes care of the baby. Wife is too depressed to take care of the household but feels better when she goes shopping.
Two years later she runs off with a construction guy and OP has to pay child support and sell the house, living with his mom.
Compatibility is extremely important in any marriage; if one is financially responsible (and the other one isn’t), it’s asking for conflict down the road as she (or he) will most likely continue to accrue debt (with your credit card this time). You’re asking for a lifetime of stress, excuses, and fighting over money - compounded by the fact she didn’t finish college and doesn’t work which is representative of (emotional as well as financial) immaturity. By the time it’s all said and done, your credit and finances (and your marriage) will be destroyed.
People can change - if they do the work on their own and prior to marriage. Else, you’re taking a tremendous gamble in which the odds are not in your favor.
Maybe this should start a whole new thread.....but when and why did we let our government get involved in the marriage business? Make no mistake, a legal marriage is more about joining two persons current and future assets and debts into a joint business venture than anything else. Is it to insure that dad's will be financially responsible for any children? There are already a ton of laws in place that can hold men financially responsible. Did you know that if a man is legally married to a woman that cheats on him with another man, the husband is considered the legal father and not the man she cheated with?? The married husband has to bring a legal action (basically sue the state) to prove he is not the father, and there is a relatively short time to take such an action. I am guessing that 90% of the time it is the man that takes the biggest financial hit when a marriage dissolves. Shouldn't marriage be a spiritual / religious / personal commitment and leave big government out of the equation?
FYI ….this is coming from a longtime happily married man.
Her credit and her bills are her problem. She shouldn’t burden you with this. I would never consider this relationship. Marriages don’t last. Neither will your money if she can’t control herself.
Shouldn't marriage be a spiritual / religious / personal commitment and leave big government out of the equation?
FYI ….this is coming from a longtime happily married man.
The entire purpose of marriage is to make a coupling ‘official’ to society and legally recognizable in terms of the rights of both parties, children, etc. It has absolutely nothing to do with religion or spirituality in and of itself - as many atheists, agnostics, and people of all religions marry (even those which might not be accepted by certain religions) and are protected in the same way.
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