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Plus, I don't know how you can reason with a two or three year old with a "time out' for running out into a busy street or reaching for a pan of hot oil on the stove.
Try holding their hand while you're out or not having hot oil on the stove where the child can reach it.
I've never spanked my children. They don't get in trouble at school. They respect adults and their peers. They make great grades.
I was never spanked as a child.
Having said that, spanking should not be decided by the government.
April 12, 2010 -- Moms who spank their 3-year-olds may be increasing their children's risk of aggressive behavior, such as bullying, by the time they turn 5, a study shows.
The study, published in the May issue of Pediatrics, adds to evidence suggesting that spanking and other types of corporal punishment set kids up for aggressive behaviors later in life.
"Children need guidance and discipline; however, parents should focus on positive, non-physical forms of discipline and avoid the use of spanking," study researcher Catherine A. Taylor, PhD, an assistant professor of community health sciences at Tulane University School of Public Health and Tropical Medicine in New Orleans, tells WebMD in an email. "This message is consistent with that of the American Academy of Pediatrics, which 'strongly opposes striking a child for any reason.'"
The problem is children do not get spanked enough. This is the reason you see children in the stores acting a complete brat; crying, kicking, screaming, and falling out. A good swat on the bottom is just what some kids need. You tell me, what good is time out or "go to your room, taking a toy, tv, iPod, or cell phone away. None of it does any good at all, eventually the child is done with time out or they get their things returned to them. That does not teach them any thing at all. " no pain no game"! However, a good swat or two maybe three or more, I guarntee they will remember that and they will think before they misbehave again. The government should not have a say so in how people discipline their children, unless it's out of control. Now there is a difference between abuse and discipline. I was spanked as a child and so was my mother and her mother and so on. We all turned out just fine, I do believe children and adults should praise God. Having Jesus as the head of your life makes a HUGE difference as well. the bible is a good thing to have and read daily with your family.
Children should not be beaten simply as a release for a parents' feelings of frustration or rage at life. This happened when I was young.
On the other hand, young children who do not respond to verbal reasoning or withholding of privileges will often only respond to a whack on the fanny. This is not abusive.
I know of some kids recently who were physically violent with adults every time they felt frustrated. By letting these children make all the family decisions and never telling them "no," the result was very psychologically disturbed kids. They were very unhappy because they couldn't find any limits, but desperately needed them.
The answer is somewhere in the middle of no discipline, and abusive discipline. There is a certain level of maturity needed to raise kids properly, and we as a society should do everything we can to ensure that children are not made until there is a family capable of raising them well.
Didn't think so...
I have been sorely tempted, though.
Obnoxious, unruly kids are usually a product of bad parenting.
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