Should Gays and Lesbians announce to family and friends they are homosexual? (stats, biased)
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Now that I think about it I have never "announced" to my family and friends that I am heterosexual. So I suppose I don't see the necessity of a homosexual "announcing".
I'm going to assume that your comment was made innocently with no intention of trying to keep homosexuality in the closet, but here's my response: Of course, it's not necessary for a heterosexual to announce that he is, indeed, heterosexual. It's assumed that you are.
There isn't a one-size-fits-all answer to this question. If a young person is still dependent on their parents for financial and physical support then he/she better be darn sure that their parents are going be accepting before coming out of the closet. Too many street kids having been kicked out or driven out of their homes when parents react badly to coming out of the closet. Once someone is self supporting then that makes the decision easier. Then you have to listen to your heart and let the chips fall where they do.
I have friends who have kids who are gay/lesbian. And I don't know a single one of them that didn't pretty well know it themselves before their kids told them.
Dang, this is a really sad first post of the thread. Where's the positive option on there? I mean, there's not even an option that says: "Uh, wow, I can't believe you are gay, but I still love you, want one of these cheeseburgers?" And the fact that you said that someone in your family recently came out, I feel sorry for them because it sounds like they got no love from their family on this. Family should always be family. I don't think homosexuality is logical or physically right, but I don't judge.
My parents didn't care when I came out to them. But then again, I'm lucky to not have uptight crazy religious parents who desire to live in "the perfect world".
If you are gay, you should most def come out to your family and friends. This way, you can test them as well. Are your parents REAL parents who love their children unconditionally? Are your friends real friends?
I don't think people should be "testing" people. Especially your own parents.
Recently some friends and family members have come out of the closet and announced at a family or social event that they are in fact gay. Of course the reaction of the people is more interesting than the actual announcement.
The reaction usually comes down to this:
1) Why are you telling us this? Your sex life is your business.
2) What a shame, have you tried to get counseling/therapy?
3) What did your parents say when you told them?
4) Embarrassed silence
5) Walking away and never talking to them again (because they are sinners)
Rarely is the statement of coming out a joyish experience. It usually causes people to feel uncomfortable.
But maybe it is a form of therapy for the gay or lesbian person. So maybe in the long run it is a good idea for gay and lesbians to come out.
Should Gays and Lesbians announce to family and friends they are homosexual?
I guess that depends on what type of person you are. I'm an honest person and was raised to live with integrity and honor. Lying to my family members is unacceptable to me. I owe my loved ones the truth regardless of how they accept it. I've raised my kids to tell me the truth regardless of how I might perceive what they tell me. I don't believe in selectively telling the truth or only telling the truth if you expect to receive a positive response, but then again, I was raised with integrity. I guess some people were raised to think that lying is okay?
Recently some friends and family members have come out of the closet and announced at a family or social event that they are in fact gay. Of course the reaction of the people is more interesting than the actual announcement.
The reaction usually comes down to this:
1) Why are you telling us this? Your sex life is your business.
2) What a shame, have you tried to get counseling/therapy?
3) What did your parents say when you told them?
4) Embarrassed silence
5) Walking away and never talking to them again (because they are sinners)
There isn't a one-size-fits-all answer to this question. If a young person is still dependent on their parents for financial and physical support then he/she better be darn sure that their parents are going be accepting before coming out of the closet. Too many street kids having been kicked out or driven out of their homes when parents react badly to coming out of the closet. Once someone is self supporting then that makes the decision easier. Then you have to listen to your heart and let the chips fall where they do.
1. Their parents are obligated to care for their children under the law until they are adults otherwise it's called child protection services
2. If your parents are truly that disgusting and have that little moral fiber to disown their children simply because of their sexual orientation then the child is probably being given a great service so he or she can move on and associate with quality individuals.
3. I very seriously doubt your account of parents kicking their kids to the street. I know plenty of parents who disagree with their kid's lifestyle..maybe even vehemently so but to kick them out into the street...sorry but youve been watching a little too much Lifetime television
3. I very seriously doubt your account of parents kicking their kids to the street. I know plenty of parents who disagree with their kid's lifestyle..maybe even vehemently so but to kick them out into the street...sorry but youve been watching a little too much Lifetime television
Unfortunately, it happens a lot more often than people realize.
HOMELESSNESS
Approximately 40% of homeless youth are identified as gay, lesbian or bisexual. (3)
Service providers estimate that gay, lesbian and bisexual youth make up 20-40% of homeless youth in urban areas. (18)
In a study of male teenagers self-described as gay or bisexual, 27% moved away from home because of conflict with family members over sexual orientation. Almost half had run away from home at least once. (2)
I did notice that the stats on that page are from the 1980s and 1990s. I would think that things have changed for the better since then.
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