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Recently some friends and family members have come out of the closet and announced at a family or social event that they are in fact gay. Of course the reaction of the people is more interesting than the actual announcement.
The reaction usually comes down to this:
1) Why are you telling us this? Your sex life is your business.
2) What a shame, have you tried to get counseling/therapy?
3) What did your parents say when you told them?
4) Embarrassed silence
5) Walking away and never talking to them again (because they are sinners)
Rarely is the statement of coming out a joyish experience. It usually causes people to feel uncomfortable.
But maybe it is a form of therapy for the gay or lesbian person. So maybe in the long run it is a good idea for gay and lesbians to come out.
Should Gays and Lesbians announce to family and friends they are homosexual?
i mean they could but it shoud not really matter
if you are comfortable with your preference then.........hay do what your heart tells you
just don't expect your folks to be all okay about it when you know they don't except that
but you need to be true with your self
My parents didn't care when I came out to them. But then again, I'm lucky to not have uptight crazy religious parents who desire to live in "the perfect world".
If you are gay, you should most def come out to your family and friends. This way, you can test them as well. Are your parents REAL parents who love their children unconditionally? Are your friends real friends?
Now that I think about it I have never "announced" to my family and friends that I am heterosexual. So I suppose I don't see the necessity of a homosexual "announcing".
Now that I think about it I have never "announced" to my family and friends that I am heterosexual. So I suppose I don't see the necessity of a homosexual "announcing".
So, if you were gay.. you would just continue your life as is..and then answer any questions as to "why have you and your roommate been living together for the last 15 years?" But only if they ask, right?
So, if you were gay.. you would just continue your life as is..and then answer any questions as to "why have you and your roommate been living together for the last 15 years?" But only if they ask, right?
Yeah. I suppose it would depend on who asked and how they asked.
I have a friend I have known since junior high (over 30 years) who has never had a girlfriend (or boyfriend) or even been on a date as far as I know. He has never proclaimed his preference and I have never asked. I don't think he is gay. I assume he is basically asexual but am not sure.
Am I curious? I used to be but no longer. I just accept him as he is, a good friend. I guess that is my point. If your family and friends are true and care for you as a person then there is no need to "announce" your sexuality. Chances are the people that really know you have a pretty good idea anyway and don't think any differently of you.
Recently some friends and family members have come out of the closet and announced at a family or social event that they are in fact gay. Of course the reaction of the people is more interesting than the actual announcement.
The reaction usually comes down to this:
1) Why are you telling us this? Your sex life is your business.
2) What a shame, have you tried to get counseling/therapy?
3) What did your parents say when you told them?
4) Embarrassed silence
5) Walking away and never talking to them again (because they are sinners)
Rarely is the statement of coming out a joyish experience. It usually causes people to feel uncomfortable.
But maybe it is a form of therapy for the gay or lesbian person. So maybe in the long run it is a good idea for gay and lesbians to come out.
Should Gays and Lesbians announce to family and friends they are homosexual?
So, StrandedandLonely, is there something you'd like to tell us? We're listening.
So, if you were gay.. you would just continue your life as is..and then answer any questions as to "why have you and your roommate been living together for the last 15 years?" But only if they ask, right?
But not making a huge announcement isn't the same thing as keeping it a secret. Most gay people go about their daily business, and mention boyfriends/girlfriends/partners as they deem it necessary, just like everyone else. Someone comfortable with themselves wouldn't refer to a partner of 15 years as a "roommate".
Sexuality, Political Affiliation, Religious Belief... if you feel that most of your friends and family assume you are one way, and you are not, I don't see the problem with clarifying where you stand. I would imagine it would be the same to a person who was raised as a Pentecostal but then chose to be a Buddhist, or raised in a family of staunch republicans but chose to be a Democrat. You're not asking others to become gay/Buddhist/democrat, just for them to realize that they should no longer assume that you are what they think you are, or that you share their views on the subject.
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But only if they ask, right?
