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So what we have is one woman who knows all about being a parent because she has nephews and another who is preganant, I am guessing in her early 20s and already knows what a "kick ass single parent" she would be and then me.
I may be having my first child but I have been a parent longer than that. Been raising my step son since he was 3 weeks old he'll be 3 in August. So i have a bit of experiance here. Your right on I am 20 years old and KNOW that I would be a GREAT single parent. Key word there is I would be a GREAT PARENT. Regardless if I had a man in my and my childs life or not. So maybe your insecure of your parenting where you feel you needed a man?? IDK but just because you couldnt do it all that well doesnt mean I cant.
Oh and be glad Im not Hopes or I would jump on you about spelling pregnant wrong.
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I am the one who has seen first hand a childs broken heart when Daddy isn't there on the ball field, at the class plays, at graduation, at a million different things. I am the one who could give them everything in the world except the one thing they longed for.
You are the ones thinking me, me, me and I am the rotten, insensitive one? I guess I will tattoo B**** right on my forehead then and wear it with pride.
I don't believe for a second that a kid knows something is missing until someone TELLS them it's missing. Otherwise, it's just their reality.
Her being single and adopting a baby will surely be an extremely difficult process. Why? Because single people should not voluntarily have a baby.
Some single moms have the income and enough family support to have a baby. I know a woman who had IVF and just gave birth to twins, and she is doing very well. It really depends on the person. It doesn't matter if people (single or married) voluntarily have babies or not, but having a plan and a timeline is certainly much better than having no plan and winging it.
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Or how about the ones okay with committing insurance fraud and putting their Dr's license to practice on the line?
Again, you are assuming a whole lot about what constitutes insurance fraud. Do you seriously think that insurance companies would reimburse a doctor without scrutinizing the paperwork? You seem to have something against infertile people getting coverage, I think. For most insurance plans, initial workup and even some treatments are totally covered. I'm a doctor, my doctor is a doctor, and we aren't stupid enough to jeopardize our licenses.
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I'm about to turn 35. I tried for 10 years with one miscarriage, and now have (or just found I have) PCOS which I have apparently had for years, I lost the right side ovary and tube and my left side is damaged from the years of misdiagnosis. It has been determined by both my gyn and a fertility doctor that the chance of conceiving on my own is slim to none.
Sorry to hear that. If you still have good eggs left, you have a good 5 years left to save up some money (or take out a loan) for IVF.
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Endocrinologists treat PCOS, not gynecologists, not fertility specialists. The most logical step is to treat the cause of your infertility---PCOS. You need an endocrinologist.
This is not factually correct. Many doctors treat PCOS, including family medicine, gynecology, reproductive endocrinology/infertility, and endocrinologists. Reproductive endocrinologists are a subspecialty of ob/gyn and are a part of the infertility group. Fertility specialists and gynecologists are very well equipped to treat PCOS. The cause of infertility in this case is anatomical (damaged tube on side with ovary) + PCOS. Treating the PCOS is good for reducing other comorbidities (like insulin resistance) but without IVF it would still be a challenge to get pregnant.
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Those are all "easily treatable"?
By easy I mean there is usually a known treatment and plan to target each diagnosis. But you need a diagnosis anyways to determine that so the workup is still necessary. Unexplained infertility is the most difficult to deal with in my opinion since the game plan is uncertain.
Regarding adoption: I think it's a perfectly valid viewpoint not to want to adopt because you don't want to waste time raising kids that are not genetically yours. This may sound offensive, but you don't go and adopt any homeless person on the street, do you? But if your family member became homeless you might feel more inclined to let them into your household.
I am the one who actually lived through it all. I am the one who is trying to point out what a disservice you are doing by voluntarily choosing to not have another parent around. I am the one who has seen first hand a childs broken heart when Daddy isn't there on the ball field, at the class plays, at graduation, at a million different things.
You DO know that even when a father is physically "around", these heartaches still happen right? Just because a father is around doesn't mean he is involved in all aspects (or any) of his child's life.
My cousin had a living father, but he never had anything to do with her, even though he lived the next town over.
The cause of infertility in this case is anatomical (damaged tube on side with ovary) + PCOS. Treating the PCOS is good for reducing other comorbidities (like insulin resistance) but without IVF it would still be a challenge to get pregnant.
I didn't even have a tube on the side I had an ovary and I still managed to get pregnant after my PCOS was treated. Furthermore, for the OP, treating PCOS could be helpful for the thread topic, "how to accept she can't have children," since hormonal problems with PCOS contribute greatly to a higher incidence of depression. Seems like a no-brainer all around to have the PCOS treated and not just the fertility issue, especially since treating PCOS can lead to fertility too.
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If you still have good eggs left, you have a good 5 years left to save up some money (or take out a loan) for IVF. 
