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"quarter life crisis" is just dumb. if the average life span is around 80, then why would it go a "quarter life crisis" when you're 25? do people really think they are gonna live to 100 with how fat some of them are and how screwed up the medical system is? talk about being overconfident...
in today's day and age, people are going to have crises every couple of years. for me, I had crises occur at the following ages:
8-10(divorce, alcoholic mother, abusive father)
12-17(puberty, moving around, no friends, clinical depression, alcoholic mother and her taste in lousy men, deadbeat father nowhere to be found)
19-22(uncertainty about future, broke college stage, alcoholic mother, no prospects, dysfunctional living situation, legal issues brought on by excessive drinking & idiot friends, deadbeat father finally killed himself, gained 50 pounds)
26-???(the diverse, unexpected **** show. murphy's law sums it up. pretty much hit on all aspects. health, finances, family, criminal neighbors, had to move again. I even had a pet die. did I mention alcoholic mother?)
and everyone else on here is complaining about relationship stuff and not being loved?? lol, you should be so lucky. wish I had the time for relationships after working 60 hours a week to even complain about them or even the lack of sex. but for that, there's porn. and when you can't afford therapy or have nobody to talk to, there is alcohol and self-loathing. and for the most part, other people are the reason why I am in this mess. so I aint gonna be having a relationship with nobody, romantic or non-romantic. so ill be working hard, trying to better my career, but not trusting anybody. I will be even more of a shut-in homebody than ever. but at least Ill have plenty to read.
If I had to give you any advice, don't complain about your lack of relationship prospects. at this point in your life(the mid twenties for most in the thread), all of the good ones are pretty much taken. the damaged, jaded people with trust issues(me) and the people that wanna take advantage of you are the remaining single ones left in the "market"
sure, I guess there are some things in life that have turned out alright. I have a steady, although mediocre source of income. ive got a college degree and some experience under my belt. what I try to do is focus on the positives and try to work on the negatives. It will probably take a couple of years. but as you are riding the storm out, look out for #1. people wanna see you fail, especially the older generations so that they can validate their own regrets. life is filled with "crisis".
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I also disagree with a previous poster that by one's midtwenties, one should be getting serious about focusing on marriage and family. Wholeheartedly.
I read a book about quarter life at 23 or 24. The book had old school view of how we by mid 20's one should have marriage, relationship nailed & an aspiring career. I wish I never read that book because it gave me a panic attack and made me focus more on my failed relationship status than I should have.
I agree with the above poster, don't stress about "where you should be". Once you take true analysis of your friends around, you will realize how far away from "should be" everyone is. those ideas of Focus on life just adds to the crisis
Jeffrey Arnett's theory of a developmental stage called "emerging adulthood," which is theorized to be a result, partially, of social and economic shifts in the past several decades.
Overall, it tends to be a very white, very middle class and up phenomenon.
Maybe I should be giving myself a pat on the back then. I've obviously done very well for myself socially/financially to make it into that sphere lol
I'm kidding. I'm just saying that I'm neither white or middle class...or I might be middle class. Idk.
I read a book about quarter life at 23 or 24. The book had old school view of how we by mid 20's one should have marriage, relationship nailed & an aspiring career. I wish I never read that book because it gave me a panic attack and made me focus more on my failed relationship status than I should have.
I agree with the above poster, don't stress about "where you should be". Once you take true analysis of your friends around, you will realize how far away from "should be" everyone is. those ideas of Focus on life just adds to the crisis
Old school view? My career began at 23, met soul mate at 24, started dating at 26, marriage at 31 that lasted for 40 years until death did us part. Don't recall any pressure to achieve certain milestones at designated ages though. Old song: "Whatever Will Be Will Be."
I don't know how to view this really. There are some people out there who practically advocate doing nothing, except being nice to people, and just letting life happen as it happens. There are others who live by the motto, "God helps those who help themselves." People from both ends end up living fulfilled lives, but it's hard to try to climb that proverbial corporate ladder without stressing yourself out sometimes. Maybe it is best just to pursue your passions, stay close to family and friends, and let life happen as it happens.
I hit the big 25 last month and it's scary. 30 in 5 years....and I've got nowhere in life
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talk about being overconfident...
and for the most part, other people are the reason why I am in this mess. so I aint gonna be having a relationship with nobody, romantic or non-romantic. so ill be working hard, trying to better my career, but not trusting anybody. I will be even more of a shut-in homebody than ever. but at least Ill have plenty to read.
