Advice needed on self-confidence

[theluckygal]

I am glad that you ended the toxic relationship. Some people are too hung up on looks or status & they cant see past the superficial. You cannot change them but you can stop them from hurting you. First step is to love & accept yourself. If you are not happy with the way you look, then work on making yourself better. Even if you are 100% happy with the way you look, there will be people who will judge you & try to make you feel bad. So you need lots of confidence to put them in your place.

[Tracysherm]

Originally Posted by Loyal_Heart

After reading your post , i realized too that feeling inferior is what drove my ex to behave that way too , and yes , i felt exactly like he was doing me a favor by accepting to be in a relationship with me because no other guy would , but the question is why would a man stay in a relationship that is making him feel inferior ?shouldn't moving on and finding his equal be the best solution instead of destroying a woman's self-confidence?

It was not the relationship making him (your guy or mine) feel inferior; he already felt inferior and insecure to begin with. The best way he found to feel more secure in the relationship was to make me (or you) insecure. I don't know about you, but I was young and had some insecurity to begin with, he tapped into that and increased it, to keep me in his control.

[Loyal_Heart]

Originally Posted by TracySam

It was not the relationship making him (your guy or mine) feel inferior; he already felt inferior and insecure to begin with. The best way he found to feel more secure in the relationship was to make me (or you) insecure. I don't know about you, but I was young and had some insecurity to begin with, he tapped into that and increased it, to keep me in his control.

I had some insecurity as well , but having another critisize my look was like deepening the wound.