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Were I in the well-off gal's position, Id've told the person offering to pay for my grocieries, to help someone else, someone in true need of help.
I had money for most of my life, now I don't so I have been on both sides.
When I had aplenty I refused windfalls such as the one mentioned; felt icky accepting something I didn't need.
I hope the well off gal who received this gesture of kindness she did not need, passed it along to a needy person/family/child.
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You may not like to hear this but being lucky is 80% mindset, and unfortunately it's one you don't have at this moment, based on your user name. If you think and feel that way (lowonluck), how can you expect luck to find you?
I'm being serious here...it may be way out of your current experience but I suggest you start to study this concept by reading books from the library. Wayne Dyer would be a good place to start.
I wish you didn't have to buy your dinner on credit but only you can change that. A $160 gift would only be a temporary delay in reality, it's not enough to change much...what you need is a way to change things around for yourself...it will be so much more empowering.
Honestly things don't have to be the way you see them right now. I can say this with absolute certainty but the only one who can change it is you and it starts with your belief system and mindset.
P.S. I would NEVER pick a user name like lowonluck, it reeks of victim mentality. And I only share this for awareness. I am someone who creates every bit of my reality.
OP, I understand your feelings and do believe this is not a permanent bitterness/jealousy that prompted this thread. I've felt like this at times, too.
To others: I really don't think this is how OP treats life overall. But, certain times and circumstances can get the best of us. And then it can be quite helpful to vent, if nothing else. Unfortunately, venting to friends and loved ones can be misunderstood - either as a unwelcome call for help, or accepted with general irritation (as it was here). So, forum is a much safer option.
Yes, people do "attract their luck", to a certain extend, yet a lot can not be controlled. Then, a person just does the best they can, and I believe this is likely what she always does. It's just, if she already felt stressed out and powerless, adding this being a holiday (supposedly "happier times", in our minds), hearing this one news just might've pushed her over the edge.
Anyway, it just happened, just random luck. Sure would be great if it did happened to someone who needed it most, but that would be almost too perfect. Life is not that "fair", in general. And we all know that, but can hope for the best and do what we can, in the meantime. OP, hope you will get a ton of luck your way, soon!!
I hope the well off gal who received this gesture of kindness she did not need, passed it along to a needy person/family/child.
I hoped so, too! Then it could be a string of heart-warming gestures, passed from one to another.
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Originally Posted by adventuregurl
P.S. I would NEVER pick a user name like lowonluck, it reeks of victim mentality. And I only share this for awareness. I am someone who creates every bit of my reality.
I agree with the whole post, but then again, I don't think that OP doesn't agree or does not realize it; anyway, she already got plenty of that on here, so I'll just skip that part.
As for P.S.: it COULD be worth changing! (just in case, if nothing else)
You know what my old user name was? ALL_BLUE And I was. And still am, a lot of times. But I don't need a remimder of it every time I write! On the other hand, at the time it could have been a call for help, in a way, as I truly was in a dangerous place, mentally.
I do not think she was bragging. I think she was just amazed that someone was so kind and she was giving him credit for his gesture of kindness, during this holiday.
Sorry to hear that. Most times I don't know why I have such a good luck in life. I try to give a lot of times but I became wary after I spent about $70 buying food and clothes for a homeless guy. The next time I saw him I asked why he wasn't wearing the clothes I bought him and he told me the old clothes yield him better money... Anyways, If knew you were in front of me at the grocery store, I'd paid for your groceries.
Were I in the well-off gal's position, Id've told the person offering to pay for my grocieries, to help someone else, someone in true need of help.
I had money for most of my life, now I don't so I have been on both sides.
When I had aplenty I refused windfalls such as the one mentioned; felt icky accepting something I didn't need.
I hope the well off gal who received this gesture of kindness she did not need, passed it along to a needy person/family/child.
I am sure she will pass it on, if she has not already.
OP, I understand your feelings and do believe this is not a permanent bitterness/jealousy that prompted this thread. I've felt like this at times, too.
To others: I really don't think this is how OP treats life overall. But, certain times and circumstances can get the best of us. And then it can be quite helpful to vent, if nothing else. Unfortunately, venting to friends and loved ones can be misunderstood - either as a unwelcome call for help, or accepted with general irritation (as it was here). So, forum is a much safer option.
Yes, people do "attract their luck", to a certain extend, yet a lot can not be controlled. Then, a person just does the best they can, and I believe this is likely what she always does. It's just, if she already felt stressed out and powerless, adding this being a holiday (supposedly "happier times", in our minds), hearing this one news just might've pushed her over the edge.
Anyway, it just happened, just random luck. Sure would be great if it did happened to someone who needed it most, but that would be almost too perfect. Life is not that "fair", in general. And we all know that, but can hope for the best and do what we can, in the meantime. OP, hope you will get a ton of luck your way, soon!!
Yes, this.
I just do the best that I can. It just gets frustrating when others have it way easier and then there is me. everything is 2 steps forward, three back. It gets old.
Next year is my year. I won't say it can't get worse, because every time, I have said that...it got worse. 2016 is going to be different. It has to be.
Sorry to hear that. Most times I don't know why I have such a good luck in life. I try to give a lot of times but I became wary after I spent about $70 buying food and clothes for a homeless guy. The next time I saw him I asked why he wasn't wearing the clothes I bought him and he told me the old clothes yield him better money... Anyways, If knew you were in front of me at the grocery store, I'd paid for your groceries.
it is the thought that counts. You are a gem.
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And I was. And still am, a lot of times. But I don't need a remimder of it every time I write! On the other hand, at the time it could have been a call for help, in a way, as I truly was in a dangerous place, mentally. 
