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Hey all...........Lacey, Ain't it always somethin', lol I am holding my breath that my fridge makes it till I sell, it is starting to make weird noises.
As to "the lookers", they have scheduled for tomorrow now and will only be here for one more day before heading off to parts unkown. The lame azz agent of the pass had the NERVE to email to say he can't show it and if I would let them in or if my agent is present to be sure his commission is protected..........the balls I say. I spoke to my agent and she will rearrange her schedule to accomodate. I told her IF we get an offer to give him a finders fee and not a commission. He has not met these people and I will bet a dollar to a doughnut there is no signed buyers agreement....let the fun begin. Now of course if they dont offer the argument is moote. Tomorrow will tell, so continue to cross all please......
ok this will be brief. just want you to know had power outage, when it came back on internet off. doing same thing of on and of on and off. so as soon as it's consistent will post. just wanted everyone to know where i was at. ok, copy/paste time. the number of angry smilies are the number of times I've had to hit reply
Painter, keeping everything crossed. 2nd margarita, even my eyes are crossed
Joy, are you having crazy weather??
DH and i decided that whatever happens, happens, let go, let God.
getting bored all these days off but not complaining, maybe go for a haircut tomorrow.
Hi girls...Painter, I am crossing everything I can without falling over girl..let us know what happens..its your turn!
Stoy, until you hear the mortgage is not going to be a GO, I would sure consider that it's going to work out..if it doesn't, then it's not meant to be..that does not mean that you are not supposed to be in CO, it just means that is not the right house..and actually sometimes renting for a while is not a bad thing...so however it works out it will be fine! Sounds like so much stress in the home right now, take a hot bath, a tall drink and sleep..maybe try to keep yourself out of there until it's time to leave..or immerse your self in some good books...
Hey do any of you skype? I was thinking that would be a fun thing to do, chat on skype..if you do let me know by DM or email and I will add you to my contacts.. Can even do conference skype although I am not real familiar with how that works..
Need to get going on the Wii fit thing that we have..Scott got it all hooked up for us..now I need to figure out how to get the wireless on it going so i can hook up to the internet....somehow didn't work a couple days ago when he was messing with it. In the morning...
Well, not much going on here in DogLand...got the decorations all down and need to put away the ornaments, but the main stuff is down.. will work on more of it tomorrow..
i think i sound like a broken record.. over and over again...chat later!
Tambre,
Not really. Anytime he gives me a "reason" for leaving (usually a lie or something stupid and petty), I address his "reason" and then he comes up with a new "reason".
His latest is that back in May he said "no" to something our daughter needed and I got upset. (I cried a little. I may have been a little hormonal at the time, especially with my PCOS being out of whack at that time.) He said that was his "breaking point". Wha'??
He and I agree on almost everything and we never argue or fight, so how could one of the few times we disagreed be a "breaking point" for him?
I really don't understand.
I am a very good wife. Even if I do say so myself. lol I'm loving, affectionate, faithful, peaceful, easy to get along with. I don't give him a hard time (rarely) or give him the silent treatment. I'm very interested in having sex with him (one of his "reasons" was that he thinks I think sex is dirty and that I don't like it, which is completely ridiculous; I always went to him for sex!), so he can't complain about that. I do whatever he wants me to do if I know what it is he wants me to do because I love him and I want him to be happy. I cook and clean and take care of the kids. I make phone calls for him and run errands for him.
And even after all his nonsense and lies, I still speak kindly to him and I still tell him I love him. I don't belittle him or call him names. I know that won't help the situation. Plus, I'm just not the type to talk that way.
Before he sort of officially left, he said, "Don't I deserve to be happy?" I later asked him, "Yes, but at what cost? Is getting what you think will make you happy worth losing your family over?"
His unhappiness comes from within himself. And I told him that it will still be with him even when he's not with me because doing the wrong thing can never bring happiness.
The kids think he's out of state working, and much of the time he is. I'm praying that God brings him home soon so that I can spare my children the truth - that Daddy doesn't want to live here anymore. Christmas is over now. I wanted to wait until at least Christmas was over before I told them. DH doesn't want them to know the truth. He said that they could or would just think that he's working. I told him that he couldn't keep that up for long. They're not stupid and they'll eventually start asking questions. Which they already do. "Where's Daddy?" "When's Daddy coming home?"
He has some personal issues to work through. Unfortunately he fails to see that not leaning on me and not leaning on God will not help him. I love him with all my heart and I've always tried to encourage him and praise him. (The male ego and all.) I've always believed in him and let him know that I do. So why can't he lean on me now? Why does he feel like the answer is to run away? I'm not his problem. He is his own problem.
What is it they say about trying to run away from your problems? They're still with you wherever you go.
Which reminds me of another of his "reasons". He said he's tired of being lonely. I told him that of course he's lonely, he's never here. That's not my fault. When he's gone for months at a time I always tell him how much I miss him and I wish he was here and that I hate that his job is keeping him away so much. When he said that he was lonely I asked him how living alone was going to fix his loneliness. That makes no sense at all.
*sigh*
Anyway, I'm sorry for writing so much and taking up too much of the space here with my problems. I don't want this thread filled up with my junk. lol
Niki-let it out girl-this is the place and we have all supported each other thru many things. We all feel for you and have no doubts you are a wonderful wife and partner. You are correct that this lives within him and only he can "find" it and address it.
Painter I had a dream last night that you had a contract! Prayers girl.
I have started the St. Joseph novena already-asking for a spring sale.
Have started reloading the refrig and I am talking nicely to it-I told you it hears me and is possessed.
Ok, lets see how much sleep did I just get? Went to bed at midnight..got up at 3. Woot. NOT.
CMa, yes that seems rude to me..especially when the laptop user does not see the folks they are visiting often and it's the holidays. Same goes for constant texting and cell phone use. Oh well...glad you are getting some 'normal' back in your life. I know I hope I have grandchildren someday, but I already know I will be glad when they go home lol.
When is it ok to just throw out STUFF. I can't stand parts of this house anymore. The office. As much as I hate to admit it, my desk is too big for the little office. We spent sooo much for that desk set when we lived in Utah, but I had a huge office for it and I love it and I don't want to sell it. I can't move it any other place in that room. And there are piles all over the place. Is it morally wrong to just toss. There are piles, honest to goodness girls, that I have been hauling for at least 3 houses. I think once I find my tax stuff and house stuff, the rest is just getting shredded or tossed. I can't handle it anymore. Same with the pile out here in the dining room. I need to take some more pictures of my messes and get your opinions..
And blankets. How did I get so many blankets and pillows..where do I store those. My linen closet is the size of a yugo. In almost any room in this house there is a bunch of stuff I have no idea what to do with.
I am going to have DP call this guy here in the area..check this craigslist ad out..does this look like a good deal for garage cabinets..I need something. I have all my nice Christmas dishes and platters, etc..plus other holiday dishes like for Valentines and Easter that I do use, but they have no place to go inside the house. I need a place to keep my breadmaker and blender besides my small pantry..I have a lot of nice mixing bowls but no room..
NEW Garage Storage Cabinets ... built for YOU!!! (http://palmsprings.craigslist.org/hsh/1522032138.html - broken link)
compared to something like this: ClosetMaid 36 In. X 72 In. 2 Drawer Raised Panel Storage Cabinet - 12316 at The Home Depot
All I know is something's gonna give pretty soon. Most likely my mind!
Niki, I don't know what to say, but don't feel bad about venting..I do think that you need to get counseling for yourself, if not a professional counselor, maybe your pastor? almost sounds like your husband has some kind of mental issues going on that maybe if he would get checked, some meds would help..but whatever is going on sounds like it's definitely him. Just not right to do this to his kids, though. will keep praying for you.
If I were not so dam* tired I would start tossing piles of crap right now. but I am too beat..BAH.
Niki-let it out girl-this is the place and we have all supported each other thru many things. We all feel for you and have no doubts you are a wonderful wife and partner. You are correct that this lives within him and only he can "find" it and address it.
Painter I had a dream last night that you had a contract! Prayers girl.
I have started the St. Joseph novena already-asking for a spring sale.
Have started reloading the refrig and I am talking nicely to it-I told you it hears me and is possessed.
Good Morning Lacey.I take it the monster frig is running again..?? hold your breath and yes talking nice does work, lol..
Oh I hope your dream about Painter comes true..yes!
Barb-we had closets built in the garage. We for 4 raised paneled white doors at BixBox and they were about $40 each. Our guy then framed it out,etc-it's got wolmanized on the bottom so it's raised off the ground. We installed brackets and shelves and it's a life saver. I have extra vases, Lenox,etc. Plus one is all lawn stuff, another crystal,wines,etc. I have like 4 levels in each one.
The blankets-either donate or get one of those "shrink" things.
If you haven't used something or worn something in a year-toss it. When you buy a new sweater-toss an old one,etc.
Shred all unnecessary papers. Those nice decorative boxes work well on shelves in your office.
I'm pretty anal about organization so I may be over the top.
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I told him that he couldn't keep that up for long. They're not stupid and they'll eventually start asking questions. Which they already do. "Where's Daddy?" "When's Daddy coming home?"
