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You are clearly not relationship material if you are so adamant about doing what you want to do regardless of what is going on with your partner.
Right, this is where my confusion lies!
Should I have gone home with him and sat around doing nothing while he was on the team’s website spending no time with me?
Am I a bad girlfriend for knowing this is what the night would consist of and going out instead?
AM I supposed to stop living my life the way I choose to because he has decided he is going to cut out things from his?
It’s not like I dragged the people who were with us back to my place and told them they could party there, I went out. I even slept fully clothed on our couch so I wouldn’t wake him when I came home.
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Originally Posted by Antlered Chamataka
VG will protest only with us. We can reciprocate by listening to her rants, which can be at least morally supportive.
I appreciate you listening to my rants.
As I have said before AC, sometimes I just want someone to listen, not necessarily even any advice at all – although in this case I was just so confused I needed an outsider’s perspective. I don’t feel comfortable with talking to “real life” people about this stuff. A lot of my friends and family are biased.
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[FONT=Verdana]Now today I don't know whether to be mad at him or feel bad. I understand his frustration at our Sunday together being wasted because I was hungover, but I don't think he needed to speak to me the way he did. He was telling me I should show him more support on his diet/alcohol ban while encouraging me to go out and celebrate at the same time.[/FONT]
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I think just showing my screen name here will be answer enough.
However, you are correct: He didn't need to speak to you the way he did. And that is what you should tell him. "You don't need to talk to me that way."
And then you should say, "And I don't need your stupid-arse little boy tantrums or anything else you have to offer me, which is why those three big guys are standing in the doorway: Today is my moving day."
Should I have gone home with him and sat around doing nothing while he was on the team’s website spending no time with me?
Am I a bad girlfriend for knowing this is what the night would consist of and going out instead?
AM I supposed to stop living my life the way I choose to because he has decided he is going to cut out things from his?
It’s not like I dragged the people who were with us back to my place and told them they could party there, I went out. I even slept fully clothed on our couch so I wouldn’t wake him when I came home.
I appreciate you listening to my rants.
As I have said before AC, sometimes I just want someone to listen, not necessarily even any advice at all – although in this case I was just so confused I needed an outsider’s perspective. I don’t feel comfortable with talking to “real life” people about this stuff. A lot of my friends and family are biased.
I think if you really loved him and he was really "the one", you wouldn't have to ask the questions. You wouldn't WANT to go out and drink and party when he has given it up. I suspect you know this already.
I've been there. I cared and I wanted to be supportive and respectful so I did not drink. I WANTED to help, not dismiss it and say that his fight had nothing to do with me and I shouldn't have to change my life because of that.
In the end it didn't matter, but that's another story. LOL
Regardless, it's not cool for him to talk to you that way.
Don't EVEN try to call what you have with that man "love"
That's offensive to people who really do know what love is!
What would you call it?
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