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ertily - If it were me, I would've gone dutch. The way I see it is, if you waited for her to come back, split the bill, and looked like a tight-wad, at least you would've left only paying half and you'd never see her again. If you waited for her to pay, looked like a tight-wad, you would've gotten a freen dinner. Since you paid the whole thing, you look generous but if you two never got together again, you paid for two meals. IMO, as the woman, I would've paid my half.
Old fashioned I guess, but before I got married alot of the women I dated were single parents. Bacause of this, knowing money can be tight, I always paid, and would often catch the babysitter. When invited over for Sunday afternoon football I would offer to pick up pizza/chicken etc.. If we hit it off I would also suggest dinner and moive with the kids, my treat. This is not because I felt I had to, it was because I wanted to and could afford it. Being a single parent myself I understood the budget breaker a date could be for some. I was blessed with a good job and a dinner/moive was not a financial burden for the week. Money is made to be spent not just saved.
Life is short, you had a good afternoon, don't let the price of one meal ruin it.
Old fashioned I guess, but before I got married alot of the women I dated were single parents. Bacause of this, knowing money can be tight, I always paid, and would often catch the babysitter.
That's a good point, Crashcop. Even if the women were not single mothers and just single working women, chances are good that they made less money than you did (statistically-speaking), so I think there is still a place for this "old-fashioned" notion .
I would be interested to hear how others feel about this....
After talking with a woman for a while (yes online dating), she suggested we get together over the 4th. I agreed and we had a few good hours hiking and talking. She brought up dinner and said she was hungy. I agreed and we went to a nearby chain restaurant and had a good dinner. Anyway, when the check arrives she conveniently has to go to the rest room and I, not wanting to look like a cheapskate, pay the whole bill. Now, I always believed that if I asked a woman out then I would pay for dinner, but this was different and I feel somewhat taken back. It was her idea to get together and her idea for dinner. I would have been content to let things go at that. OTher women I have been out with have always out of courtesy offered to at least pay the tip. IT seems to me no matter what I would do, it would have made me look like a tightwad or cheapskate. You know, if I would have said beforehand - "lets split the bill and your share is __". It was not a matter of her financial standing either. Somehow the woman's movement has not caught up in this area.
I am not sure what the women's movement has to do with this. This seems more like a case of failure to communicate. U r right if u didn't pay the bill it would make u come across as cheap. However, I don't know if u have avoided that. U didn't pay for the dinner because u wanted to. U did it for appearance sake and now u r complaining about it. She may have suggested dinner, but u could have declined or at that time said "sure lets go dutch" or "is it your treat?" U should not feel bad because u paid for a lady's dinner afterall u said u liked her and enjoyed spending the time with her. U never know what benefit u may reap.
I would be uncomfortable with making a lady pay. I would prefer to pay a dinner bill. But thats just me.
Hey u sound like a guy with his head on straight And a man after my own heart...when do we eat?
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IMO, as the woman, I would've paid my half.
Old school thoughts.....
And a man after my own heart
