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For me it's not the even the religious institution of marriage I mind, it's the STATE contract of marriage that I DO mind. Never again. Too high a risk for the sake of having socially acknowledged companionship. I don't know where people come from to make the leap in logic that in order to have life companionship one must sign a piece of paper at the courts.
At this point I would prefer life cohabitation (non-common law) or a very strong prenuptial agreement. I ain't getting married kevlar vest wide open again though; screw that Russian roulette antic. If a prenup changes your feelings about being with me for life, that says all I need to know about the motivations for being with me in the first place. I would gladly sign a prenup if a rich woman asked me to as a condition of our marriage; why I can't get the same reception on that subject from women in my dating pool is what's got me running for the hills regarding "marriage". I'm not gonna remove food from my mouth and savings from my kitty just because you don't want to play house anymore, sorry.
As to the 'living in sin' bit about the religious construct of "marriage"....sticks and stones man. I'm not scared of other people's interpretation of God's take on my personal moral code. The STATE on the other hand, they DO put the fear of God in me, as they have guns, wage garnishments and female-leaning civil codes to put the screws on me with. Change the laws, I'll marry the next flake any day and twice on Sunday ..But that ain't gonna happen in my lifetime so ain't touching that potato with a 10 foot pole lol.
I don't know how true that is or if it applies to the majority, but I've read opinions that many men get married when they feel "it's the time" for whatever personal reason and just marry whomever is or comes along at that time.
Thats right! It is almost that time.
Gosh, who's available in the next 15 minutes? If I manage to escape this time, it will be the year 2310 before the time comes back around.
I want to have kids, so yeah I want to get married. Otherwise, as a man, what's the point? There's so much more to loose financially.
There is also the option of getting married to live together as couple for a lifetime. I know there's so much more to loose financially but if you guys are happy as a couple, understand each other, help one another and there is always communication along with integrity then there shouldn't be any hassles.
Then again, I don't even know what's it like being married (minus children).
Marriage is a generally a bad idea. Roughly half of all people who marry find it so bad they end it. Many more remain married unhappily ever after. A small percentage make it work, and are happy about. The odds are poor, but many still play the lottery, too!
I say this even though I'm very happily married - now. However, this is the second time for me, and neither of us believe in marriage or needed it, but there were some pragmatic reasons to do so. Fortunately, getting married didn't ruin our great relationship, but we truly feared it might. The first time for both of us was the proverbial train-wreck marriage, and made us both cynics about marriage. The concept is flawed and outdated, but even more-so, people are flawed and can't make such an idealized concept of a relationship work, which isn't surprising.
Don't be so sarcastic! There are quite a few examples of men who have been with women for years, break up, and then marry somebody else within months.
Sorry about the sarcasm.
There is a time and season for all things. A time to sow and a time to reap. A time to live and a time to get married.
Edit: Whew dodged another bullet. The 15 minutes has expired.
Last edited by MattB4; 11-21-2010 at 08:07 PM..
Reason: Bullit dodging and other contortions.
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..But that ain't gonna happen in my lifetime so ain't touching that potato with a 10 foot pole lol.
