How did you get your spouse to join therapy with you

[ferretkona]

I found once you both get in the office the therapist will advise to both seek separate counseling before working together.

This is how it should be anyway.

I might leave a pamphlet in a jacket and let the wife find it and ask you. Just say you are seeing someone and make no big deal of it.

[profgent1]

I have suggested to persons that they inform their partner that they are seeing a therapist and believe it is in both of their interest to access services for benefit.
This is something where 'we' need to be fixed and while 'I' can go, 'our' attendance will help 'us' and bring 'them' to a more harmonious co-existence. And as one person put it, the non-attending partner may feel put out, but also recognizes something is wrong too, typically buys in fairly quickly, and the couple work diligently.
If you have a dynamic therapist, you can get a lot out of work. I wish you the best.