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It seems like very bad behavior if you're in a commited relationship. On the other hand, when my wife was very ill, she sent me off to visit friends who "took care of me." If that isn't love, I don't know what is, but I'd never have pursued this without her approval and encouragement.
Am I the only one a little skeptical of this melodramatic sob story from a first-time poster?
I think I've heard of something like this before...but for now I'll be sympathetic and hope she moves on. Anyone stooping that low isn't worth being with (and this includes that 'other' case ).
We have been together for 5 years and 2 children together and live what I thought was pretty happily.
A few months after the birth of our second child, I was diagnosed with cancer, had biopsies, surgeries and lots of tests. He "reconnected" with some Jr high girlfriend and said that they were friends. I read their emails flirting, saying good night, etc. It seemed to come more from him than her. I found a picture of her cleavage on his cell phone when they were at lunch. I don't think that he cheated because I caught him before he had the chance, told her husband. I don't think that she was willing to cheat on her husband. Then he sent her a picture of his penis. I flipped out at this point because I was battling cancer. Thyroid cancer usually isn't deadly but at this point I realized that he is a sociopath and I might as well be dead because if I stay he will eventually cheat, right? But if I go then I am a lonely broke single mother? What a life? I also want to add that having 2 children and cancer in a few years, I have gained 25 lbs... maybe he isn't attracted to me anymore? I am trying to loose weight but I am so miserable.
Then he had another girl coworkers number hidden in his phone and I saw a text that wasn't really inappropriate but why did he disguise it? Now I am flipping out that he is try to sleep with her too, and I have NOTHING to base that on except for thats what I am expecting now!
HELP
I'm so sorry... You need to dispose of this piece of garbage cancer or not, but I do understand it's very hard to do it in your position. It doesn't sound like you work... I hope the cancer goes into remission, you regain your strength and energy, find a job, and get rid of him.
We have been together for 5 years and 2 children together and live what I thought was pretty happily.
A few months after the birth of our second child, I was diagnosed with cancer, had biopsies, surgeries and lots of tests. He "reconnected" with some Jr high girlfriend and said that they were friends. I read their emails flirting, saying good night, etc. It seemed to come more from him than her. I found a picture of her cleavage on his cell phone when they were at lunch. I don't think that he cheated because I caught him before he had the chance, told her husband. I don't think that she was willing to cheat on her husband. Then he sent her a picture of his penis. I flipped out at this point because I was battling cancer. Thyroid cancer usually isn't deadly but at this point I realized that he is a sociopath and I might as well be dead because if I stay he will eventually cheat, right? But if I go then I am a lonely broke single mother? What a life? I also want to add that having 2 children and cancer in a few years, I have gained 25 lbs... maybe he isn't attracted to me anymore? I am trying to loose weight but I am so miserable.
Then he had another girl coworkers number hidden in his phone and I saw a text that wasn't really inappropriate but why did he disguise it? Now I am flipping out that he is try to sleep with her too, and I have NOTHING to base that on except for thats what I am expecting now!
HELP
Well.
First let me say that I'm sorry you have had to go through the horrors of cancer. It is something that I would not wish on anyone and I hope that you make a full recovery.
That having been said. You're not a wife. Either a person is married or they are not. There is no "gray area". Married people have vows. They have commitments. Unmarried people do not.
Technically, just because you have chosen to bring two children out of wedlock into the world, does not give you any different status. Sorry about that. You're still seeing a SINGLE man (i.e. "not married" to you or anyone else). And single men, even those who have children are not obligated by law or tradition to be faithful to anyone.
Weather you realize it or not you are a single mother. Your boyfriend could leave you tomorrow and all you could do would be take him to court for child support. Thinking that he is going to stay, or be loyal to you is folly.
It seems like very bad behavior if you're in a commited relationship. On the other hand, when my wife was very ill, she sent me off to visit friends who "took care of me." If that isn't love, I don't know what is, but I'd never have pursued this without her approval and encouragement.
committed = wedding.
She might have a commitment in her mind, but I think it's pretty obvious that he does not.
Having two kids and thyroid cancer is a quick way to gain 25 pounds and losing it is not easy. Even a little increase in the dose of your thyroid meds could help. Ask your doctor.
You gotta look sexy for the next guy who comes along. The one you're with now is a complete jerk
Weather you realize it or not you are a single mother. Your boyfriend could leave you tomorrow and all you could do would be take him to court for child support. Thinking that he is going to stay, or be loyal to you is folly.
Well, she is, but she can just easily become a single mother had she been married, so that's not the most relevant part of the predicament.
I know this woman who abandoned her husband after 20 years of marriage while he was doing chemo for thyroid cancer. While he was busy beating cancer, retraining for a new career, and getting his life back on track, she was busy cavorting in some weird threesome situation with another couple behind his back and had somehow involved their kids into this mess. One day she just said, "Surprise!" and filed for divorce. She even moved their kids in with the other couple... who the hell knows what is going on there? It boggles the mind... I don't know how she can even live with herself but it is clear if anyone is a sociopath, it is she. Being a sociopath isn't a psychiatric illness... it is just being a bad excuse for a human being.
I know this woman who abandoned her husband after 20 years of marriage while he was doing chemo for thyroid cancer. While he was busy beating cancer, retraining for a new career, and getting his life back on track, she was busy cavorting in some weird threesome situation with another couple behind his back and had somehow involved their kids into this mess. One day she just said, "Surprise!" and filed for divorce. She even moved their kids in with the other couple... who the hell knows what is going on there? It boggles the mind... I don't know how she can even live with herself but it is clear if anyone is a sociopath, it is she. Being a sociopath isn't a psychiatric illness... it is just being a bad excuse for a human being.
Best of luck with your situation...
I don't think so. Chemo is not the treatment for thyroid cancer, with the exception of anaplastic thyroid cancer which is fatal anyway. Whatever he was going through for survivable thyroid cancer, it wasn't chemo. Not saying he didn't have cancer and that she wasn't a cheater, but the facts aren't right here.
I don't think so. Chemo is not the treatment for thyroid cancer, with the exception of anaplastic thyroid cancer which is fatal anyway. Whatever he was going through for survivable thyroid cancer, it wasn't chemo. Not saying he didn't have cancer and that she wasn't a cheater, but the facts aren't right here.
Tropical, thanks for setting the record straight - that whole story is really too odd.
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I think I've heard of something like this before...but for now I'll be sympathetic and hope she moves on. Anyone stooping that low isn't worth being with (and this includes that 'other' case 
).
You need to dispose of this piece of garbage cancer or not, but I do understand it's very hard to do it in your position. It doesn't sound like you work... I hope the cancer goes into remission, you regain your strength and energy, find a job, and get rid of him.
I don't think so. Chemo is not the treatment for thyroid cancer, with the exception of anaplastic thyroid cancer which is fatal anyway. Whatever he was going through for survivable thyroid cancer, it wasn't chemo. Not saying he didn't have cancer and that she wasn't a cheater, but the facts aren't right here.
