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Okay, going to try to keep this PG-13. My wife gets real uncomfortable talking about sex, so we pretty much don't. It seems that she likes external stimulation more so than internal.
Our sex life pretty much has no variety. The same every time. At least it's not the long dry spell that we had a while back. There isn't a lot of passion involved. She could probably do without sex totally.
I've read more descriptive on here, so this should be fine. Once we are past the foreplay and things move along, she lays flat on her stomach. I lay on top and stimulate her without insertion (trying to keep it pg-13), but pretty much the same motions as if it were internal. She says she gets off this way, but who knows. It works for me, but not the best.
Can any women even relate or understand this?
PS - - I am going to ask that if you want to respond or DM me, please only helpful comments and no sarcasm. I already know that it is a little out of the ordinary, but........
Okay, going to try to keep this PG-13. My wife gets real uncomfortable talking about sex, so we pretty much don't. It seems that she likes external stimulation more so than internal.
Our sex life pretty much has no variety. The same every time. At least it's not the long dry spell that we had a while back. There isn't a lot of passion involved. She could probably do without sex totally.
I've read more descriptive on here, so this should be fine. Once we are past the foreplay and things move along, she lays flat on her stomach. I lay on top and stimulate her without insertion (trying to keep it pg-13), but pretty much the same motions as if it were internal. She says she gets off this way, but who knows. It works for me, but not the best.
Can any women even relate or understand this?
PS - - I am going to ask that if you want to respond or DM me, please only helpful comments and no sarcasm. I already know that it is a little out of the ordinary, but........
Sure it's normal. If she likes it, it's normal.
I get the feeling there are issues here that have not been discovered. I find the fact that she prefers to lay on her stomach interesting. Rather than increasing stimulation (which could be done in virtually any position), it seems that she is avoiding emotional contact with you (looking in your eyes, watching your face), during the process. This is troubling. Perhaps this is why you have asked this, perhaps it is troubling to you as well.
I am curious as to why she wants to keep the act "impersonal" which is just the opposite of what most women want. I get the feeling that opening up emotionally is difficult for her. Perhaps she was badly hurt by someone in the past and feels to vulnerable to open up emotionally during sex.
Hmmm... can't really relate to this, myself. Does she have a medical condition that makes penetration difficult or impossible?
I don't think so. If she does, she has never told me. Unfortunately, like mentioned, it doesn't get talked about. It's almost like she is embarrassed to talk about anything sexual.
Okay, going to try to keep this PG-13. My wife gets real uncomfortable talking about sex, so we pretty much don't. It seems that she likes external stimulation more so than internal.
Our sex life pretty much has no variety. The same every time. At least it's not the long dry spell that we had a while back. There isn't a lot of passion involved. She could probably do without sex totally.
I've read more descriptive on here, so this should be fine. Once we are past the foreplay and things move along, she lays flat on her stomach. I lay on top and stimulate her without insertion (trying to keep it pg-13), but pretty much the same motions as if it were internal. She says she gets off this way, but who knows. It works for me, but not the best.
Can any women even relate or understand this?
PS - - I am going to ask that if you want to respond or DM me, please only helpful comments and no sarcasm. I already know that it is a little out of the ordinary, but........
You might look into something called "frottage".
"Perverted" is something which you, personally, would not do. If you have no problems with it, you would not find it perverse. Hopefully, you find a partner that agrees with your view on that particular thing.
I get the feeling there are issues here that have not been discovered. I find the fact that she prefers to lay on her stomach interesting. Rather than increasing stimulation (which could be done in virtually any position), it seems that she is avoiding emotional contact with you (looking in your eyes, watching your face), during the process. This is troubling. Perhaps this is why you have asked this, perhaps it is troubling to you as well.
I am curious as to why she wants to keep the act "impersonal" which is just the opposite of what most women want. I get the feeling that opening up emotionally is difficult for her. Perhaps she was badly hurt by someone in the past and feels to vulnerable to open up emotionally during sex.
Communication is in order, I would say.
20yrsinBranson
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Originally Posted by DFOR
I don't think so. If she does, she has never told me. Unfortunately, like mentioned, it doesn't get talked about. It's almost like she is embarrassed to talk about anything sexual.
I think 20yearsinBranson's post might be worth looking into. I hadn't even thought of it that way.
Any idea why she is so embarrassed to talk about sex? Maybe she has a troubled history?
Or it could just be preference, as said before. The only one who can give you an answer is your wife.
Okay, going to try to keep this PG-13. My wife gets real uncomfortable talking about sex, so we pretty much don't. It seems that she likes external stimulation more so than internal.
Our sex life pretty much has no variety. The same every time. At least it's not the long dry spell that we had a while back. There isn't a lot of passion involved. She could probably do without sex totally.
I've read more descriptive on here, so this should be fine. Once we are past the foreplay and things move along, she lays flat on her stomach. I lay on top and stimulate her without insertion (trying to keep it pg-13), but pretty much the same motions as if it were internal. She says she gets off this way, but who knows. It works for me, but not the best.
Can any women even relate or understand this?
PS - - I am going to ask that if you want to respond or DM me, please only helpful comments and no sarcasm. I already know that it is a little out of the ordinary, but........
Some men don't realize that the majority of women acheive orgasm easier with external stimulation rather than internal, so I do think she is telling you the truth.
And though this is definitely an improvement over where you said you were before, I'm sure you'd prefer some internal action. Can you get her to understand that?
It wouldn't surprise me if there were something early on in her life that transpired, but that us ONLY a possible gut feeling. Going to be hard to get her to drop that wall.
LM, you'll probably remember that I just started seeing a counselor to help me be able to communicate better with her. Maybe someday she'll understand where I come from.
(heading out for the night, will check back in tomorrow)
I wouldn't call external labial stimulation "abnormal" - it's all part of the canvas of sex.
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