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Old 03-27-2011, 01:45 PM
 
Location: Hawaii
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I know. Getting old is inevitable (unless you die young). But just because you get old doesn't mean you need to be in a relationship with another old person.

You'll expect your partner to overlook your wrinkles and sags although you would not be able to overlook hers?
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Old 03-27-2011, 01:49 PM
 
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You'll expect your partner to overlook your wrinkles and sags although you would not be able to overlook hers?
Exactly. There are a lot of double standards in favor of women. And this is a double standard in favor of men.

You sometimes see old men (60+ years old) in relationships with younger women (under 40).

But you never see the reverse. Yes, there's such a thing as a cougar. But cougars are typically in their 30s or 40s. The age gap in these relationship is not as large as the age gap in old man/younger woman relationships

Plus, men age better and/or can pull off being old better
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Old 03-27-2011, 01:51 PM
 
Location: The REAL WORLD.
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Exactly. There are a lot of double standards in favor of women. And this is a double standard in favor of men.

You sometimes see old men (60+ years old) in relationships with younger women (under 40).

But you never see the reverse. Yes, there's such a thing as a cougar. But cougars are typically in their 30s or 40s. The age gap in these relationship is not as large as the age gap in old man/younger woman relationships

Plus, men age better and/or can pull off being old better
Where are you getting your information from? It's all wrong.
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Old 03-27-2011, 01:51 PM
 
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Fair enough. But you'll have to become the type of man whom those young women will find attractive.

Carry on with your plan and good luck.
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Old 03-27-2011, 01:56 PM
 
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Where are you getting your information from? It's all wrong.
Personal experience. Hugh Hefner and his fiancée's age gap=60 years

I realize Hugh Hefner is different from the average person

But can you think of any relationships where the female is 60 years older than the male (famous or not)?

As for people looking their best between 15 and 23, that's also personal experience. I wasn't overly attractive when I was younger. Then at 15, I became attractive. And I've seen people's looks go downhill at 24, so that's why I chose 23 as the upper limit.

And I don't find any old people attractive. That's also personal experience.
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Old 03-27-2011, 02:20 PM
 
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Personal experience. Hugh Hefner and his fiancée's age gap=60 years

I realize Hugh Hefner is different from the average person

But can you think of any relationships where the female is 60 years older than the male (famous or not)?

As for people looking their best between 15 and 23, that's also personal experience. I wasn't overly attractive when I was younger. Then at 15, I became attractive. And I've seen people's looks go downhill at 24, so that's why I chose 23 as the upper limit.

And I don't find any old people attractive. That's also personal experience.
So from the age of 24 on, you're not going to be attractive by your standards?
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Old 03-27-2011, 02:24 PM
 
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So from the age of 24 on, you're not going to be attractive by your standards?
Possibly. Only if my looks go downhill at 24. I've seen people's looks go downhill at 24. But I also said some people stay attractive well past 23 (although everyone's looks go downhill before they're 60)
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Old 03-27-2011, 02:31 PM
 
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Let me break it down for you

At 30, the majority of people that were once attractive are still attractive. Unless you made bad life choices that made you age poorly or you just got bad luck in the looks department, you're still going to be attractive at 30.

At 40, a lot of people's looks have gone downhill, but a lot of people are still attractive. Most 40 year olds show signs of aging, but as long as those signs aren't too extreme, they still have a chance to be attractive. I'd say 40 is the half and half age (meaning there's about a 50/50 chance of being attractive)

At 50, attractive people are few and far between
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Old 03-27-2011, 03:42 PM
 
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I doubt you'd believe anything that poster said if it was form experience or a survey of women, so there is no point to it.
I was not saying that my comments are not true; I was saying that you do not know me, so you do not know whether I tell the truth or not. I said it is a fantasy for me because I don't take what other people say so seriously...it is fun, but it is not my real life. If you disagree with me, I don't have to look at you tomorrow at work, so it doesn't really bother me. In real life I don't really like to be debating everything, but on here it is fun.
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Old 03-27-2011, 04:32 PM
 
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Let me break it down for you

At 30, the majority of people that were once attractive are still attractive. Unless you made bad life choices that made you age poorly or you just got bad luck in the looks department, you're still going to be attractive at 30.

At 40, a lot of people's looks have gone downhill, but a lot of people are still attractive. Most 40 year olds show signs of aging, but as long as those signs aren't too extreme, they still have a chance to be attractive. I'd say 40 is the half and half age (meaning there's about a 50/50 chance of being attractive)

At 50, attractive people are few and far between
At 60, there's no such thing as an attractive person
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