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So if a man's worth is measured on how much he could spend for the ring and have a woman worried because he didn't spend as much as a woman expects/demand, how is a woman's worth calculated if women are not known for spending money on men?
A mans worth is not measured on how much he could spend on the ring.
Traditions and customs entail that a woman recieves a ring when being proposed to.
IF he can only afford $20, then considering that I spend more on coffee in one week than the ring that will turn my finger black (for cheap metal will do that) then I would consider if we were financially ready to be married.
There is nothing wrong with giving what you can afford. There is something wrong if you're 30 years old and you have no savings and no plan for a future. Then again, I haven't been in a relationship with someone who is careless in important things in life.
I've been given rings before one worth around $200 and one a helluva lot more.
I never measured either man on their worth on the ring they offered me.
Yes. Add three dollars to get a $20 ring. Awww, perfect.
Women can be quite strict with their ring and how they expect/demand their man to do some spending and if not, then “aaaw perfect”, cheap ring or expensive ring. Do you have the same attitude if your guy expects you to cook gourmet meals in a snap while he watches the game? Do you have the same attitude if your guy expects you to have the house spotlessly clean and fast on a Saturday morning before his buddies arrive to visit? Women can be quite demanding when it comes to their ring but I was wondering if they are totally fine if something is expected/demanded from them.
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Originally Posted by Ozgal
A mans worth is not measured on how much he could spend on the ring
But women doubt a guy is worth it if he can’t afford their long awaited ring or if he buys her a cheap one. Like I said, if women were also expected to spend more than 3 months of their salary on a gift for their guy maybe they wouldn’t be as strict when it comes to how much a man spends on them. I guess the ring tradition is another privilege women wouldn’t want to change.
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Traditions and customs entail that a woman receives a ring when being proposed to
Are there any traditions/customs that entitle men to something and women today are totally fine to do for their men and not have that tradition changed?
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IF he can only afford $20, then considering that I spend more on coffee in one week than the ring that will turn my finger black (for cheap metal will do that) then I would consider if we were financially ready to be married
Not sure if the word “WE” can be used here considering how it is men who are expected to follow this tradition and make sure their woman is totally satisfied with his purchase of the ring.
After reading many comments here, I guess I was not that far off when I said women DO consider the ring important to the point of even dumping the guy.
After reading many comments here, I guess I was not that far off when I said women DO consider the ring important to the point of even dumping the guy.
Then I think you only read a few of the posts. I think most of us made it quite clear that the ring is not that important and that if we loved someone, and they couldn't afford a ring, it wouldn't matter. I told my first fiance that I would be fine with a cracker jack ring. It wasn't the ring that was important but the commitment. Until you understand that love isn't only about money - you will never understand love. All you see are dollar signs. Almost every single time you post - it's only about money. Love is not about money. It just isn't. I know, I know, I'm wasting my breath... Oh well.
Then I think you only read a few of the posts. I think most of us made it quite clear that the ring is not that important and that if we loved someone, and they couldn't afford a ring, it wouldn't matter. I told my first fiance that I would be fine with a cracker jack ring. It wasn't the ring that was important but the commitment. Until you understand that love isn't only about money - you will never understand love. All you see are dollar signs. Almost every single time you post - it's only about money. Love is not about money. It just isn't. I know, I know, I'm wasting my breath... Oh well.
Not about money because I could care less if she gave me a cracker jack ring either, heck, I would consider it a waste of money to have her spend more than 3 months of her salary on a piece of metal I will wear on my hand (not that women would really spend that much on a man, would they?). I wonder how many women have married WITHOUT a ring at all or proposal or without asking their guy to buy them a ring later on after they get married, but instead, they both prepared a romantic evening to talk about their relationship and decide to get married…without a ring AT ALL.
If some women in here have expressed how a man not buying an expensive ring shows he’s not financially ready to get married. I wonder if there is a determinant out there that shows a woman is not ready to get married and should be avoided.
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one worth around $200 and one a helluva lot more. 
