"Church? Already!......We just met a week ago!" (date, guy)
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I met a gal last week. We've talked on the phone a few times. We haven't been on a date yet........she's already asking me to attend church.
I told her I don't like church. She said......."that's going to be a problem"......and she goes on to say.."I am god fearing....yada,yada,yada, I sing in the choir, blah,blah, blah....etc."
I thought to myself..."I don't even know her last name yet and she's already inviting me to church"......she's right, that is going to be a problem...not mine, but hers.
I NEVER accept invites from anyone to go to church. NEVER. Not that I would not attend but I'd rather select my own church and attend by myself.
Ok........how soon is to soon to be inviting someone to church?
...and how often does this come into play in YOUR relationships?
I'm a church girl, and I don't invite someone to go to church unless I know them for quite a while. Maybe 8 months to a year or longer. I prefer to know where they stand when it comes to churches and religions before asking them. If they refuse, that's fine by me.
I'm a church girl, and I don't invite someone to go to church unless I know them for quite a while. Maybe 8 months to a year or longer. I prefer to know where they stand when it comes to churches and religions before asking them. If they refuse, that's fine by me.
I met a gal last week. We've talked on the phone a few times. We haven't been on a date yet........she's already asking me to attend church.
I told her I don't like church. She said......."that's going to be a problem"......and she goes on to say.."I am god fearing....yada,yada,yada, I sing in the choir, blah,blah, blah....etc."
I thought to myself..."I don't even know her last name yet and she's already inviting me to church"......she's right, that is going to be a problem...not mine, but hers.
I NEVER accept invites from anyone to go to church. NEVER. Not that I would not attend but I'd rather select my own church and attend by myself.
Ok........how soon is to soon to be inviting someone to church?
...and how often does this come into play in YOUR relationships?
Church is one of her questions. Like for me, do you have kids.
She's feeling you out. She wants a church going guy. A guy open to church. Doesn't sound like that's you. Some church people or bible thumpers will press you into going. Tell you why you should. What will happen if you don't.
I have a new sister...long story. She invited me to her church. I said, no. I don't attend church. Why this. Why that. I said, no period.
I met a gal last week. We've talked on the phone a few times. We haven't been on a date yet........she's already asking me to attend church.
I told her I don't like church. She said......."that's going to be a problem"......and she goes on to say.."I am god fearing....yada,yada,yada, I sing in the choir, blah,blah, blah....etc."
I thought to myself..."I don't even know her last name yet and she's already inviting me to church"......she's right, that is going to be a problem...not mine, but hers.
I NEVER accept invites from anyone to go to church. NEVER. Not that I would not attend but I'd rather select my own church and attend by myself.
Ok........how soon is to soon to be inviting someone to church?
...and how often does this come into play in YOUR relationships?
For people living their lives very involved in their church community it is perfectly normal to invite a new friend, or date, to attend with them right off the bat.
She was smart to get your reaction, because now she knows you are not her type of guy.
...and how often does this come into play in YOUR relationships?
It never has. I suppose I can go to churn once or twice a year (it won't kill me), but chances are pretty good that I and a churchgoer won't mesh anyway, so it's a moot point in reality.
I feel the need to go to church very occasionally myself, but that's more about missing my traditions, country, parents, way of life, etc. than about the church itself.
I met a gal last week. We've talked on the phone a few times. We haven't been on a date yet........she's already asking me to attend church.
I told her I don't like church. She said......."that's going to be a problem"......and she goes on to say.."I am god fearing....yada,yada,yada, I sing in the choir, blah,blah, blah....etc."
I thought to myself..."I don't even know her last name yet and she's already inviting me to church"......she's right, that is going to be a problem...not mine, but hers.
I NEVER accept invites from anyone to go to church. NEVER. Not that I would not attend but I'd rather select my own church and attend by myself.
Ok........how soon is to soon to be inviting someone to church?
...and how often does this come into play in YOUR relationships?
For people living their lives very involved in their church community it is perfectly normal to invite a new friend, or date, to attend with them right off the bat.
She was smart to get your reaction, because now she knows you are not her type of guy.
Move along - next!
It's quite true actually. Inviting people to their church community is very common but can be done in a rude way by pressuring them.
It's quite true actually. Inviting people to their church community is very common but can be done in a rude way by pressuring them.
There lies the issue.........it was a turn off the way it was done and I do think it was too soon.
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