36 female single and don't know how to get a date

[johnlegendfan]

Originally Posted by macgeek

This is WEIRD, I am quoting myself!
I see you ignored me completely.
Never once did I say "join a gym, yadda yadda yadda"
I was almost 500 lbs at one point, and had a better social / love life 'back then' then I do now.. so Losing weight is not all that its cut out to be.
BUT what I hear in your tone is a 'Pity Party' and THAT is UNACCEPTABLE
if you ask for advice you will get it, some of it will be from a$$Holés
but most people care on here.

Jonathan

Sorry I didn't mean to ignore you. In fact, I had a good laugh when I read your post. I agree with the a$$ holes part. I just saw a post from one of them.
It is not a pity party, it is frustration.
you know what? I don't care anymore. I agree with the people who advised me to get friends without looking for " the one".
It is just a bit hard to get friends when you are in your mid 30. you know?

[LS Jaun]

Originally Posted by johnlegendfan

I agree with you. I am not a bar person and will never go to a bar to pick up some guy.

You don't have to go to a bar to pick up a guy, you can relax, kick back and have drinks with a friend!

[stepka]

Originally Posted by johnlegendfan

It is just a bit hard to get friends when you are in your mid 30. you know?

Well try doing it when you're in your late 40's and your husband just ups and decides to leave after 23 years and you just moved to a new city a few months before and most of your friends live elsewhere or are couple friends and it's always been hard for you to make friends anyway. But it can be done because I'm doing it--you just do what all the others on here have suggested. (See friends, I have been listening to all your great advice!) And yes I volunteer and I heard of friends of friends who met weeding while volunteering--of course you can meet someone that way b/c it's a social outlet just like everything else.