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It's been a while since I've dated, and yesterday I went on a coffee date. It was just over an hour long. I think it went well. My one question, which maybe seems dumb, but how long until you "feel" chemistry if there is going to be any? With my previous relationships (2 serious ones) we were friends first, and I felt that building up. However, for me, going on a date, with someone I don't know as a friend, I'm unsure of how long it takes, or if it doesn't take anytime, and you feel it right away?!
It varies for me. I've been with women where it took a few dates. I was also with one where we were making out in the parking lot of the restaurant after our first lunch date (and don't you know those aren't supposed to be romantic? ).
With the majority of my past dating experiences, the chemistry took some time to build. Two times, though, it was instantaneous. The first time, the guy broke my heart. It took years to get over him. The second time, it was fireworks the moment we first made eye contact. We just celebrated our 7th wedding anniversary .
It's been a while since I've dated, and yesterday I went on a coffee date. It was just over an hour long. I think it went well. My one question, which maybe seems dumb, but how long until you "feel" chemistry if there is going to be any? With my previous relationships (2 serious ones) we were friends first, and I felt that building up. However, for me, going on a date, with someone I don't know as a friend, I'm unsure of how long it takes, or if it doesn't take anytime, and you feel it right away?!
I am constantly amazed at these questions that make assumptions that there is some "template" for all these relationship issues. EVERYONE is different. EVERY relationship, is different. Sometimes you will feel that chemistry immediately, and sometimes, it may not happen for weeks, and sometimes, you might end up friends for years, and then out of the blue...BAM.
I am constantly amazed at these questions that make assumptions that there is some "template" for all these relationship issues. EVERYONE is different. EVERY relationship, is different. Sometimes you will feel that chemistry immediately, and sometimes, it may not happen for weeks, and sometimes, you might end up friends for years, and then out of the blue...BAM.
Maybe you can't remember being young once and wondering these things...
I felt some chemistry with my SO on our first date. We actually had agreed to meet "just as friends" after developing a friendship online over a long period of time. So it was a little different than a normal first date where you really wouldn't know much about your date.
Howeverm the real sparks were on the second date. We had gone to see a movie, and made it about a third into it before we kissed. Next thing we new, the final credits were rolling!
I can share my reality. My SO and I talked and text almost constantly for two days before we met and went on our first date. When he walked in my front door, said hello, and gave me a hug, there was an instant connection. Our first date lasted for 14 hours!!! By the end of the date, I had no doubts that we had started a fire that couldn't be put out...
So, each to their own. No time frames for me. I felt it and knew immediately that he was someone special and I be dang, I was right!!!
It's been a while since I've dated, and yesterday I went on a coffee date. It was just over an hour long. I think it went well. My one question, which maybe seems dumb, but how long until you "feel" chemistry if there is going to be any? With my previous relationships (2 serious ones) we were friends first, and I felt that building up. However, for me, going on a date, with someone I don't know as a friend, I'm unsure of how long it takes, or if it doesn't take anytime, and you feel it right away?!
Love at first sight.
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