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It's been a while since I've dated, and yesterday I went on a coffee date. It was just over an hour long. I think it went well. My one question, which maybe seems dumb, but how long until you "feel" chemistry if there is going to be any? With my previous relationships (2 serious ones) we were friends first, and I felt that building up. However, for me, going on a date, with someone I don't know as a friend, I'm unsure of how long it takes, or if it doesn't take anytime, and you feel it right away?!
Do you think you connected while on this coffee date? Did you have alot in common? Easy to talk to? If so, then I'd say you had chemistry with the person.
Do you really think there is a set timeline involved? It's like asking someone how much alcohol you should drink before feeling drunk. It varies from person to person. The key word here is "chemistry", and it is actually literal. The brain does secrete feel-good chemicals, namely dopamine, in response to certain interactions. When this happens and how much is released? It varies. I don't know if anyone is going to be able to give you a specific answer.
Do you really think there is a set timeline involved? It's like asking someone how much alcohol you should drink before feeling drunk. It varies from person to person. The key word here is "chemistry", and it is actually literal. The brain does secrete feel-good chemicals, namely dopamine, in response to certain interactions. When this happens and how much is released? It varies. I don't know if anyone is going to be able to give you a specific answer.
No, I don't think there is a set timeline involved... Thank you~
Chemistry is something that can either be instant or develop over time. So it varies, because its a feel, a vibe that you get. I've met people (romantic (with women) and non-romantic) that I've had instant chemistry and good vibe with and people who, in the beginning, there was really no spark but over a course of time we developed a likeness and common bond which resulted in good chemistry. So it really depends, there's no set time on how chemistry can develop.
chemistry is different than physical attraction in that it must be mutual you can be attracted to someone who isnt attracted to you but chemistry implies that both people are feeling that spark, so its hard to say.
Sometimes it's right away....and that's scary. When I met my SO it was literally love at first sight. Scared us both to death. But more than 2 years later, we are still together and very happy.
I agree with the right away part being scary...thats how it was for my fiancee and I. It was scary because it was like wow could it really be? I remember we didn't want our first date to end and on the way home we were still talking to each other on the phone lol
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