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Because Men do most of the approaching so a shy female might be able to come out of her shell if a guy gets the ball rolling..A socially awkward Male has to approach a women and be the one to engage in the conversation first which is extremely hard..
Is there some class the socially awkward can take to become less socially awkward?
The reason I ask is because my mom is a prime example of social awkwardness. Her biggest thing is not knowing how to read body language. If she is talking (which is always) and the person on the receiving end is yawning, looking away, trying to converse with others, generally ignoring her and appearing disinterested, she just keeps on goin. When she is finally out of breath, she'll stop. Later on, she'll have to gall to talk about the person's rudeness behind their back, particularly that it was so rude that they never asked how she was. But she not only is most of the time talking about herself, but she literally does not give you any wiggle room to interject.
She has been single for over 20 years...not one date. I'd like her to meet someone and get a life (she lives with my grandma and hasn't worked in 15 years), but her chances are slim. If a man is kind to her and says hello, she thinks it is because he wants her bod. No joke.
I think she'd do great with a socially awkward guy. But I'd appreciate any guy that could tolerate her.
I was reading a comment in another thread and it got me thinking.
If you were to take a geeky, socially awkward male and an equally geeky, socially awkward female, the socially awkward female would have a better social life and a better love life.
Why do you think this is
Actually I agree with this assessment -- in my earlier post on male love-shyness, Dr. Gilmartin (who was the original researcher on straight male love-shyness), strongly makes the same point, several times, in his book. He makes the case that because men are automatically expected to do "the chasing", even shy women are going to end up having successful relationships, whereas shy / love-shy men are at a distinct disadvantage there (as women are much less likely to pursue guys, on their own initiative).
Last edited by Phoenix2017; 05-16-2011 at 08:03 PM..
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A lot of the time social awkwardness is quite subjective.
Yes, there are people who all around have poor functioning in communication and personal relationships due to personal and mental issues, but I bet a lot of the times you put many "socially awkward" people with the people whose interests/personalities they are suited to be around, or generally like-minded folks, they'd click and have no problems communicating and act like the most outgoing people.
I'm willing to bet a lot of folks who consider themselves to have no problems with any awkwardness socializing or getting along could turn socially awkward if placed in a certain environment where you couldn't relate to (for instance, if you were thrown into a society or peer group whose temperament/values/lifestyle/hobbies/culture completely mismatched with your own)
A lot of the time social awkwardness is quite subjective.
Yes, there are people who all around have poor functioning in communication and personal relationships due to personal and mental issues, but I bet a lot of the times you put many "socially awkward" people with the people whose interests/personalities they are suited to be around, or generally like-minded folks, they'd click and have no problems communicating and act like the most outgoing people.
I'm willing to bet a lot of folks who consider themselves to have no problems with any awkwardness socializing or getting along could turn socially awkward if placed in a certain environment where you couldn't relate to (for instance, if you were thrown into a society or peer group whose temperament/values/lifestyle/hobbies/culture completely mismatched with your own)
I was reading a comment in another thread and it got me thinking.
If you were to take a geeky, socially awkward male and an equally geeky, socially awkward female, the socially awkward female would have a better social life and a better love life.
Why do you think this is
Because gender stereotypes still say that men should be confident while a women who are submissive is socially accepted.
Frankly I think I'd be into a shy bookwork type girl especially with glasses. And I bet a girl like that gets more dates than a guy with the same characteristics.
I was reading a comment in another thread and it got me thinking.
If you were to take a geeky, socially awkward male and an equally geeky, socially awkward female, the socially awkward female would have a better social life and a better love life.
Why do you think this is
Easy; males are responsible for approaching and proving their worth to the women, so most women just lean back and pick who they feel like anyway. There aren't any real demand on women to be social in the initial stages...
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